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    onlinecommunity
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    Welcome to a place to discuss the loneliness and isolation caused by estranged relationships.

    At Griefline we receive numerous calls from those dealing with the loss of close relationships between parent and child, grandparent and child, siblings, cousins, friends and others.

    It’s often a distressing and confusing situation that can go on for years, with many people moving between feelings of hurt and hope for reconciliation; anger and disappointment; frustration and acceptance.

    This forum is a space to freely share your feelings, to discuss its effects on your life and to share coping strategies that have helped you along the way.

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    Sarah
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    You can be very lonely in a relationship and when it breaks down it transforms into a different kind of aloneness. How to manage a broken relationship is a big issue and I’m wondering if anyone has an experience of how they did it really well or really bad they can share? Sometimes I fall back on an affirmation I found that says, ” I didn’t leave you because I hate you, I left because I liked myself more.” Being estranged can be about friendships and family, not just partners.

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    flowerpower
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    I feel this sometimes I just talk to friends and also keep self busy do counselling lots of self care

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    VM- thanasis43
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    Hi @sarah, I really like that affirmation. I think often when you leave a relationship to protect yourself (and maybe also those around you) there is a tendency to feel like you have let the other person down, which comes with guilt and can make you second-guess your decision to set boundaries. Reminding yourself that those boundaries are a form of self-compassion is important.

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    VM-Sunflower22
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    Hello @sarah and @flowerpower,

    Sarah that affirmation really makes a person think about how much they value themselves and what is really important. The most important person in a relationship is yourself. The reason for this is like people say, you have to put your own oxygen mask on first in order to help loved ones around you. I always think about this as being your strongest self-first, for those around us. Honestly though, this has and continues to take time to sink in for me as I am a true “people-pleaser” which really doesn’t help when it comes to putting myself first for my own well-being. I hope others are able to share their stories with you about how to cope after any kind of relationship breakdown. Personally, trying to keep on top of that self-care has become the most important thing, as I have others to be strong for too. As @vm-thanasis43 mentioned, self-compassion is soo important. We really need to be our own best friend through times of grief.

    Thank you for your contribution @flowerpower, they are some positive strategies, and it is great that you have those social support networks which act as a buffer to assist you in moving forward.

    How are you both doing today? I hope you are able to smile at yourself today for how far you have come in your own journey!

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