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    missmarple
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    My 16 year old furbaby died last Saturday of old age. I knew it was coming and had been dreading it for months. He was well loved all that time and he went within a week at the end. Knowing it was coming didn’t help. I was distraught the week I knew he was going and have been since. I’m a 51 year old woman with a history of depression and am going though menopause, so knew when he went I’d be very vulnerable emotionally. I also have no partner or family apart from his beautiful 3 year old sister cat who has been giving me lots of affection 🙂 But basically means he was my family and I have no-one to talk to or lean on in my personal life. That said, work have been supportive and have given me time off to deal with it, as they know how much he meant to me. I spoke to my GP on Monday who is aware of my mental health issues/concerns and let me know it was OK just to go through grieving. I think I needed the validation that my grief was ‘normal’ and not something darker. On Wednesday I couldn’t sleep and kept crying (something I was giving myself permission to do) but at 3am in the morning I needed to talk to someone so I called lifeline. They listened and gave me the number for griefline who I rang and spoke to a counsellor yesterday. They listened and it really helped. Which I think from the reading I have done today, was again what I needed, without knowing it when I spoke to my GP. I needed to express my pain and know it was heard. I was awake at 3am again this morning (insomnia is part of grief I have read), but instead of lying with it I got up and read through many of the articles on this website and listened to the podcasts. Thank you so very much griefline for having this resource available. It’s given me tools to help myself and validated my thoughts, emotions and physical grief processes. I am choosing to believe this is my furbabies parting gift to me. A need to find a way to honour him while letting go and finding ways for me to move forward.

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    VM-rose
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    Hello @missmarple, I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful furbaby. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. I just want to acknowledge how much strength and courage it has taken for you to share your personal experience here on the Griefline forum. I also want to let you know that grief is a personal and unique experience for every individual and your feelings are completely natural. Maybe you could continue your relationship with your beloved furbaby by speaking to him and writing down your thoughts. This is a great way to express yourself and release your emotions. It’s also important to engage in self-care practices and treat yourself with compassion. Engaging with a support network is also a very important aspect of the grieving process. You can call the Griefline on 1300 845 745 between the hours of 8am and 8pm, 7 days a week. You can also request a callback at a time that suits you. Here is the Griefline resources page: https://griefline.org.au/resources. There are also some great insights and coping strategies in our article ‘Losing a Pet’ here: https://griefline.org.au/resources/losing-a-pet. Continue to keep in touch through this online forum and take care of yourself. We are here to listen and support you.

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    VM-Serenity66
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    Hi @missmarple,
    Sometimes it can be a mystery to others how deeply it hurts to lose a companion, but it’s no mystery to anyone who has ever loved a pet. We can invest so much of our hearts in them, and they repay us tenfold, so the loss is real and personal. I echo @vm-rose in encouraging you to share your story with a Griefline volunteer.

    Also, don’t forget to give yourself all the gentle loving care that you need right now, while you are coming to terms with your loss.

    A gentle guide to self-care after loss: The E.A.S.T. approach

    Pet-lovers get it!

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    VM-Apples23
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    Hi @missmarple

    How have you been coping the past week? I am so glad to hear you have found utility from some of Grieflines resources in working your way through this tough time. Our furbabies certainly feel like an extension of ourselves, of which I personally relate to. Oh how lucky we are to have them and to have known them. He will never leave your heart, and vice versa. Your grief towards an animal is valid, and can be as heart-wrenching as the grief of a human.

    I encourage you to be gracious to yourself in this time, and allow the happy and sad feelings to come and go, so long as you are in a safe place. We are here for you and to validate your experience as you navigate into this new phase of your life.
    Please feel free to call us, or reengage with the forums at any time.

    Take care,
    Apples.

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