For many people, the death of a pet is a deeply painful experience. Companion animals become part of our daily lives and families. They offer comfort, love, and routine — and their absence can leave a profound void.
This guide explores the grief that can follow the death of a pet, offers validation for those mourning, and provides supportive tips to help you cope.
Recognising the pain of pet loss
The bond between humans and animals can be incredibly strong. Pets often provide unconditional love, emotional support, and a sense of purpose. When they die, it can trigger intense feelings of sadness, guilt, loneliness, or even shock — especially if others dismiss or minimise your grief.
You are not alone in this experience. Pet bereavement is valid, and it deserves to be acknowledged.
Common experiences of grief after losing a pet
- Emotional distress (sadness, guilt, anger, emptiness)
- Disrupted routines or loss of daily structure
- Feelings of isolation if others don’t understand your grief
- Physical symptoms like fatigue or sleep changes
- Reliving memories or imagining the pet still present
Grief is unique to every person and every loss. Be patient with your process.
Supporting children and young people
The death of a pet is often a child’s first encounter with death. Their responses may include sadness, confusion, fear, or guilt. Be honest with them using age-appropriate language. Avoid euphemisms like “ran away” or “went to sleep” — these can increase confusion.
Encourage children to express their feelings and honour their pet’s memory in meaningful ways, like drawing pictures or planting a flower.
Supporting older adults
For older people, a pet may have been a constant companion or a key part of daily life. Losing that bond can be especially painful and may exacerbate feelings of loneliness or loss of purpose.
Reaching out to support services or pet loss groups can help ease the transition.
Helping other pets adjust
Other pets in the home may grieve, too. They might withdraw, become clingy, or behave differently. Offer comfort, maintain routines, and spend quality time together as they adjust to the absence of their companion.
Tips to cope with the death of a pet
- Give yourself permission to grieve — your feelings are real and valid
- Honour your pet in a way that feels meaningful (e.g. create a memory box or photo tribute)
- Take care of your health: eat, sleep, move your body
- Reach out to others who understand, such as pet loss support groups or forums
When guilt or self-blame shows up
You may question decisions made at the end of your pet’s life, especially around euthanasia. These feelings are normal and often stem from love and responsibility. Try to remind yourself that your decisions were made with care and compassion.
Talking with a grief counsellor or pet loss support service can help ease guilt and support healing.
Support is available
You don’t have to go through this alone. Support services include:
- Griefline: Call 1300 845 745 (8am–8pm AEST, 7 days)
- Online Forums: Visit the forums to connect with others who understand
