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I have been really missing someone, and my heart is beyond broken. We were never in a relationship, and I really regret not asking him out on a date, to see where things took us. I really wanted to lose my virginity to this man as well. And a big age gap wasn’t going to stop me from doing as such. He’s in his mid-fifties and I am in my mid-twenties. I did not realise at the time that this man was a package deal; he has a young daughter, which doesn’t bother me, but he also has his ex-wife attached to him, controlling his every move. I don’t want a stalker who has potentially been abusive emotionally towards him in my life. She goes through his mobile phone to see if he has been texting other women behind her back (me) even though he is single and does not have my number. She also goes to his house frequently to ‘check up’ on him because she ‘cares about him and still loves him.’ She is the same age as this man. I want to help him, but I will admit that I too haven’t treated him in the nicest manner, and he deserves closure from me. And believe me, I have tried everything with regards to seeking advice on what to do. Mum and Dad are sick and tired of me discussing this man, because they, quite frankly, believe that I am too good for him, even though they won’t provide me with a reason of justifying their statement. Not to mention, they have their own problems too which are of far greater concern than my petty ones, you know, like work, gambling and alcohol. 1800RESPECT were useless and they did not take me seriously. Lifeline were also useless. REACHOUT and Kids Helpline, on the other hand, have been fantastic, but it is getting to the point where my counsellor from Kids Helpline is trying to assist me with transitioning to different counselling due to my age, which I have done successfully. I am now seeking help with moving on from this man from my private counsellor. I also haven’t had the best experience with the police so there is no point in me discussing my concerns about the safety of this man to them, because they will view me as being fixated on him and will detain me under the mental health act unnecessarily. I used REACHOUT tonight and the counsellor on the other end recommended this website to me. So I thought that I would give it a try and see how I go.
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