Reply To: Mum passing away during going through delayed grief/depression with Dads death

[Paul s]

Hi there,
Sorry for your losses, especially your mum recently. Nothing can prepare you fully when you lose someone you love. Its ok to feel guilty,angry at the moment. Be gentle on yourself though, your human, with emotions, and the grief will bring all sorts of the most deeply felt pain in you, at any time it wants. Keep on reading the book when you can and talking to someone you confide in, or councellor, etc. Thats the hardest part im finding, talking it out with soneone, as my councellor is ok but i need abit more. Journaling helps, but, referring to your question about spirituality, ive turned to god alot also recently, and i talk and express my pain to him. I have faith and believe your loved ones are always watching you and with you, and i talk to my dad constantly every day,,as i used to when he was alive. It feels good, to share things with him still, and they both are helping me in lots of ways, that ive seen still, so their spirit never dies, and they are always in your heart and mind. In regards to god, ive found, he has helped and guided me through this incredibly tough period in my life, and he continues too, even though i do question his,ways sometimes and get angry abit with him. Its hard to see the goodness sometimes and how he works, but then he turns around and comforts and guides me, so ill never doubt him, thats forsure, even with the deep, dark hole im in at the moment, going through this debilitating, nuisance of a deoression, which ive promised myself ill beat it in everyway, no matter how long it takes

Hope this helps.
Take care.
Paul