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Thank you Deb.. you are right. “Endure”. That’s it. It’s the best, the very best, we can hope for. Survive. I understand exactly what you are saying. The grief, the pain, is so deep, so raw. Any platitudes, no matter how well meant, are not what’s needed. As you said, just to be heard. Witness our pain. Allow us the depth of hurt.
In the future (I can’t imagine it now) there may be joy, but that will come hand in hand with pain & sadness. I’m realising I will never feel complete happiness ever again. We are biologically designed to nurture and protect our babies.. when the unthinkable happens, it’s the cruelest joke that we have to continue living when they will not.
My friend, herself a bereaved mother, explains it as everyone is a planet orbiting the sun.. and a comet has come and knocked our planet from it’s trajectory. Now we are hurdling through space, while everyone else continues with their set plan. To us, nothing will be the same. We cannot pretend any different.
I’m glad you are saying your truth, and there will be people who allow you to be honest. You are right, and entitled to your pain.