I was sad to read about your 8 year relationship ending. Although it is great that you have started to meet new people and make new friendships, despite at first feeling unlovable and a loss of self-worth. Eight years is a long time to love someone so it makes sense that it takes time to move on from that. I feel that despite the breakdown of a relationship, there is always something positive to take away from it. Perhaps you have found an inner strength inside you that you didn’t know you had, or that you find yourself in a more positive headspace about your ability to cope than you could have imagined.
You have shown great resilience and strength by putting yourself out there to make new connections/friendships in your life. This is not easy for many of us. You mentioned you have enjoyed doing things for yourself, this will all help to re-build your self-worth and I am proud of you for investing in yourself. There is no bigger investment in our lives.
How have things been going for you since you last wrote? Of course it is normal to have ups and downs along the way but I am hopeful things have stayed positive for you. May your restored hope and optimism lead you to find your person (as you said), but most of all, may it lead you to finding the best version of yourself in the process.
Please remember you can always reconnect with us here on the online forums, where you have a supportive community to share your grief with. If you are wanting further information about recovering after separation, I have attached a link to Relationships Australia. I hope you find it useful. Take Care!