Welcome to the online forums and thank you for showing such courage in sharing your distress and feelings of disbelief over your marriage troubles. You have posted under ‘Loss of a loved one’ which is very understandable considering what you are experiencing. Grief is a reaction to many different types of loss and the breakdown of a relationship is a very common cause of grief that we attend to here at Griefline.
You might like to also visit the ‘Estranged Relationships’ topic under the Loneliness and Isolation forum – as you will likely find community members with shared experience there too.
It sounds like you have real inner strength to pull on, considering your efforts to stay calm/avoid anxiety and to practice self-care by booking in your psychologist appointment and reaching out to others on the forums. You are showing immense courage to cope as well as you are right now.
Some other tools to help you cope in the short term are our website page on ‘Relationship Loss’ which has some comforting and informative insights. You can visit it here
Another soothing tool which may help when you are feeling overwhelmed is this 5-minute meditation from our Resource Hub.
5-Minutes of Bliss: Breathing and Body Awareness Meditation. Access it here.
I also invite our caring community to share their experience and support with Jan.
Jan, please keep in touch…we’re here to support you through this very difficult time. 🌸