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  • #29852
    cmd83
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    I lost my mum 8 weeks ago, although we had time to say goodbye, it was still a shock as she decided to cease anymore medical treatments. 8 weeks later, last week – my brother died suddenly, still unexplained. I don’t even know where to go from here. Everything feels completely shit. My dad passed 15 years ago. It felt a lot different to this grief I am experiencing now.
    It’s a heavy, confused feeling.
    🙁

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  • #29943
    VM-Tzimisce
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    Hi @cmd83

    I am so sorry to read what you have been going through over the last 2 months. But I am also so very proud of you for coming here and reaching out for support. During such a tumultuous time it can be very frightening to tell others that we need help. But you have made the first step.

    I would like to recommend a few articles to read that may be of help to you during this time of grieving.

    https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-loss/ and https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-grief/ use simple language to explain what is happening and how to deal with the emotions you are presently experiencing. Both contain links to other resources that you might find useful.

    If you feel like you would like to talk to someone, and not a screen, our helpline (1300 845 745) is open between the hours of 8 am and 8 pm AEST, every day. If you’d rather that we called you at a time of your choosing, we offer a call-back service at https://calendly.com/griefline_request_a_callback/30min.

    #29985
    VM-pink1
    Participant

    HI cmd83,

    How completely normal of grief to feel heavy and confusing. Especially given your multiple losses in such a short period of time (cumulative grief). Even though it is a normal human response to grieve (especially those with who we have such a deep connection with like parents and siblings), it doesn’t mean the terrain along the journey is easy. When I lost my younger sister suddenly, I listened to lots of grief podcasts, the Good Mourning podcast is such a great mix of raw grief and laughs (very paradoxical I know, but very healing). Have you found anything helpful so far? Sending you lots of compassion…

    #29992
    VM-rose
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    Hello @cmd83, I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and brother. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I just want to acknowledge how much strength and courage it has taken for you to share your personal experience here on the Griefline forum. I also want to let you know that grief is a personal and unique experience for every individual and your feelings are completely natural. As mentioned by @VM-pink1, it is completely normal for grief to feel heavy and confusing, especially when you are grieving multiple losses in a short span of time. It’s important to give yourself time to grieve and to be kind to yourself during this extremely difficult period. If you’re comfortable to do so, you could share your experience with people you trust. Perhaps you could create a photo album that includes beautiful memories of your time together, or you could try writing out your thoughts. These are both therapeutic practices that allow you to connect with your emotions and express your feelings. You can also continue to connect with others by using the Griefline forum. It’s so important during this difficult time to connect with others who are going through grief and loss. You’ve taken a courageous first step by reaching out to Griefline. We’re here to listen and support you.

    #30057
    cmd83
    Participant

    Thank you. I really appreciate your reply. I’ve requested a callback for next week.

    🙂

    #30058
    cmd83
    Participant

    Thank you! I appreciate the reply. I’m interested to check out that podcast. Thanks again 🙂

    #30059
    cmd83
    Participant

    Thanks so much. Your suggestions are much appreciated. 🙂

    #30062
    VM-Apples23
    Participant

    Hi @cmd83

    Checking in – how have you been coping? I am glad to hear you are going to engage in a callback with Griefline. We are always interested in hearing about others’ stories, and to offer our best guidance and support. Before your call, I’d just like to remind you that there is no ‘proper way’ to grieve, and that you are able to experience strong emotions for as long as you need.
    In my personal experience, the shock alone takes a long time to subside. I found it useful to speak about my experience with anyone willing to listen – they didn’t even need to say a word in reply. Shock can transform into guilt, which in my opinion is the toughest to deal with alone.
    Again, I’m glad to hear you are booked for a callback from Griefline. We are here for you.

    Take care,
    Apples.

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