Sudden loss of best friend

[cwattblkhwk]

Hi all,
I lost my best friend this week of a sudden heart attack and I am struggling to cope with the sadness.
I can’t believe my healthy, larger than life friend will never see me get married, never see me have kids etc.
The constant pain is overwhelming me and I just need to know it gets easier. Everyone keeps telling me it will but I struggle to believe it.

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[VM-Sunflower22]

Hello @cwattblkhwk,

How are you coping? It has been sometime since you posted, and I am wondering if you have support around you to help you through this time of grief. Losing your best friend… I am soo sorry you had had to go through this without getting the chance to experience the big life events together that you mentioned such as getting married, having children. The way life works out doesn’t seem to make much sense sometimes, does it? I really like what @vmmax mentioned about holding your best friend in your heart but in a different way now. It may be helpful to think of other ways to process our perspective on the grief. What we anticipated for our life compared to the way it actually happens, well there is no choice but to adapt a different way of thinking in order to move forward. I hope time can heal even just a little bit for you. I trust that you will feel your best friend still with you in spirit. There aren’t really any words that I can think of that could help you right now but please know we are here for you, to listen and to allow you the space you need to process. Please find some time each day to practice self-care. Here is a link from Beyond Blue that might help if you ever find this tricky;
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/personal-best/pillar/why-you-should-do-something-for-yourself-every-day

[vmmax]

Hi @cwattblkhwk,

I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this. Grief feels impossible sometimes. As much as I would like to say it gets better, I understand that this hasn’t been helpful to you. Perhaps something to consider is to keep your friend in you life, during those moments that you wanted her to be with you. It’s ok to change your relationship with your friend as you grieve and hold her in your heart, to make a little place for her in your life. You don’t have to forget about her or stop loving her. Take care of yourself as you experience this grief.

T.

• This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by onlinecommunity.

[vmmichelle]

Hello @cwattblkhwk,
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend. Thank you for sharing and reaching out. It is understandable that you are struggling to cope with the saddness of losing someone with whom you have shared so much, and had anticipated being there with you through your life’s journeys. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to process what has happened. Everyone grieves differently. However, while often immensely painful, grief is our natural healing process in response to loss. If you would like someone to talk to please reach out by calling Griefline on 1300 845 745. You are not alone. https://griefline.org.au/get-help/free-telephone-support/
My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

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