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I really wish I knew my dad more as a person, I wish we decided to admit him into hospital sooner when we sensed he had a relapse after remission, what makes this feel worse is that we were meant to fly overseas to see our extended family again this year.
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Dear @downennumb,
It sounds so hard to be grieving your Dad, and also grieving his future reunions with your family. I read on the other thread that it’s only been a month since your Dad passed away. That’s so recent, and it’s natural for you to be missing him terribly. It’s also natural to be apprehensive about burdening others with your grief. At the same time, friends and family can be a deep source of comfort and healing, and sometimes when you connect over your grief, you can be helping each other through a difficult time. When people love you, it can be hard for them to watch you hurting.
I’m glad to hear that you have support from your Uni with counselling and extensions. Perhaps this is a time to be a little bit gentle with yourself, and not judge yourself too harshly for not performing at your best. Grief takes a lot out of us. It can be very tiring, make us feel intensely, make us numb, and occupy a lot of our thinking. This may go up and down for a little while for you. It can keep going when everyone else thinks it should be over. Everyone’s experience is unique, yet strangely common to our humanity. You are always welcome to keep in touch with us here on the forums, or have an anonymous chat on the Helpline (1300 845 745). You don’t have to do this alone. We are a community who has known loss, and we want to help support you through it.
Keep doing the little things day-to-day that keep you well.
A gentle guide to self-care after loss: The E.A.S.T. approach
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