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    bruce
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    Two family deaths in two months, the last six months ago. First thought I might end up the last one standing of my remaining birth family. Now I feel as though my own time will be cut short and I don’t have long to go. Doesn’t make any sense to me. I am not too old and should have many years to loook forward to, but I am feeling I’m not going to make it. It’s unhinged.

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    vmpercy
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    I’m really sorry to hear about the loss you experienced, Bruce. Grieving multiple losses in such a short time must be incredibly overwhelming, and it’s understandable that you’re struggling with unsettling feelings about your own mortality. It’s okay not to have all the answers right now. It seems like you’re aware that your feelings might not align with your actual circumstances, which shows self-awareness.

    I can’t help but notice your courage in reaching out here. It’s very strong of you to admit when you’re struggling, and social support can be a part of the healing process. Given what you’re going through, you might find the article “Coping with the Loss of a Loved One” helpful. It provides coping strategies that could offer some relief as you navigate this difficult time. Remember, we’re here for you.

    Coping with the Loss of a Loved One

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    aaron
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    Hi Bruce,

    I don’t know I have anything that will help you navigate those feelings, but I wanted to make sure you knew that you aren’t alone in feeling them. I lost my mum 6 weeks ago. Given my own medical situation I had expected to be gone before either of my parents yet I am still here and mum is gone too early. You are not alone in this experience. I hope you have others around you who you can lean on at this time as well.

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    VMSal
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    @bruce and @aaron, I’m sorry for the losses you’ve both been through. Please know that you’re not alone in having this train of thought about your time running out soon too. It can be a typical reaction after the death of a loved one, especially multiple losses. Our minds can throw up all sorts of thoughts and feelings in the aftermath of our losses, as we grapple with overwhelming grief, and struggle to make sense of what has happened, and wonder how we will go on.

    It is all too easy to get lost down these rabbit holes of thoughts, so it’s important to have things in your life that ground you in the present. Some suggestions are mentioned in the article VM Percy has shared above.

    It is definitely courageous of you to open up about these feelings. Whenever you’re ready, it can also be helpful to speak with someone, so please do reach out via the Helpline or by booking a call. Wishing you well, Sal.

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