My grandson died

[Michelle73]

My grandson died on the 4th of July 2021 aged 7 months and 9 days. He died from Leaukemia. I cry every day and don’t know how to deal. I only have my husband as support, I will not burden my daughter (my grandsons mum) her own grief is insurmountable. My husband says I should just get over it etc etc. I just feel lost and don’t how to cope

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[Godfreyfive]

Oh that is so very sad. I am so sorry. It is very recent and there is no way you can just “ get over it”. It may be how your husband is dealing with his own loss. You won’t get over it and instead you will find that you adjust to how things are now but that doesn’t mean you can ever forget your little grandson.

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Dear @Michelle73, welcome to the forums. Our hearts are with you as you try to cope with such a devastating and recent loss. ❤️ We see your heartache, and we acknowledge the despair you must be feeling after the traumatic loss of your little grandson.

It sounds like you are feeling very isolated in your pain as you try to shield your daughter from your grief and avoid it being diminished by your husband (who no doubt wants to protect you from the anguish). The issue is that your grief is valid and MUST be witnessed. What you need most right now is the support of other people.

That’s why we’re so glad you have reached out to us here on the forums. And we’re wondering if there are others that can support you too. The Circle of Support activity here on our resource hub helps to identify who, why and how our support people are important to us, often bringing to mind support resources we hadn’t even considered. We hope it helps you to get the support you deserve.

Whilst you feel like you’re not coping we see so much strength in you…you have taken a step back to protect others and in doing so show immense compassion and courage. Keep engaging in your strengths and over time you may start to feel a little more empowered and find a little more hope for the days ahead.

Please keep in touch @Michelle73. We are here for you. 🌸

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