My dad passed away from cancer

[hayley19]

He passed away a few weeks ago, the funeral was recent too. It doesn’t feel real sometimes… I’m 24 and he was only 68, he was my support and he cared for me. I feel so lost and sad without him… it felt so cruel that it happened to him so soon. He didn’t deserve it, I hate knowing that I’ll be living my life without my dad … but at least he isn’t suffering anymore 🙁

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[vmestia]

Dear haley19, thank you so much for reaching out for support during this difficult and disorienting time. I also think it is cruel and harsh that your dad passed away too soon – before you were both ready to let go of each other. Beyond the shock, I see your deep loss and sadness… as well as mutual kindness, love, thoughtfulness and dedication. The entire process of cancer is heartbreaking, yet suffering can also highlight the best of human character and heroic role-modelling.

I imagine it is so stressful to think of carrying on without your dad. I find myself wondering who else was at the funeral, who else would have been there who would want to carry on his memories and wishes of care for you?

I would like to provide a link to Griefline’s article “Coping with Grief”. At the bottom, it also provides links to Griefline’s helpline (open from 8am to 8pm Monday to Friday, Melbourne time) or you can book a call at a time that suits you through our Call Back service. Our community has many branches and hands here for you and your loved ones who have been left behind.

Coping with Grief

Wishing you much care and gentleness,
vmestia

[vmpercy]

Hi @hayley19

I want to extend my condolences for the loss of your dad. It’s incredibly difficult to lose someone who was not only your support system but also a loving presence in your life. Your feelings of loss and sadness are completely valid, and many of us here have experienced a rollercoaster of emotions during such challenging times.

It’s natural to feel a bit lost right now, but just know that you’re not alone in this journey. In my own experience of losing a loved one, I found solace in connecting with others who were going through similar grief. It helped me find strength and support in the most unexpected places.

I’m curious if you’ve found any activities or rituals that help you feel closer to your dad or remember the positive memories you shared with him? Sometimes, engaging in these activities or creating new rituals can provide a sense of comfort.

And as @vmestia mentioned, there are many people in this community who are here to support you. Don’t hesitate to reach out and share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with us. We’re all here for you.

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