Lots of deaths

[antmar00]

In the past 18 months my dad died, then my Aunty, then my friend, then a week before my mother died my sister in law died, and end of February this year my mother died. Also the day dad died my son was having a very tricky op to remove an egg size growth deep in his neck near major arteries & veins then up in HDU. Also I was retrenched from my job 2 weeks later.
I feel exhausted. My husband has not be reliably supportive.

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[VMKat]

Dear @antmar00
I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. This sound incredibly challenging…. It seems like you haven’t had a break from losing loved ones or worrying about your son for 18 months. Considering this extensive hardship, it’s understandable that you’re feeling exhausted, especially if your husband is not providing you with the support you can rely on. I hope you have someone to support you and talk to. You are also welcome to call the helpline (1300 845 745 8am-8pm Mon-Fri) to have a chat with a trained volunteer about what you are going through. I’d like to acknowledge your courage to share your story in this forum. It’s not easy to reach out for support, especially when you are fatigued from dealing with so much loss. Please treat yourself with kindness. There are some great resources to help you on this website that can help you to go through this difficult time. I hope your son has since recovered from his procedure. My heart goes out to you….

[vmpercy]

I’m truly sorry to hear about the immense loss you’ve experienced over the past year and a half, antmar00. It’s clear you’re going through an extremely difficult time with the passing of your loved ones, your son’s health issues, and the loss of your job. Your grief and exhaustion are completely understandable. What you’ve experienced matters, and I want you to know that your feelings are valid. It’s clear that you’ve been shouldering a lot on your own, and that takes incredible strength.

I see you mention your husband hasn’t been reliably supportive. It’s important to have a supportive network around us during tough times, and I’m sorry to hear you’re not feeling that support from him. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and i’ve included a link to our helpline below which you can call if you’d ever like someone to talk to. This forum is also here to provide you with that sense of community and understanding. It’s also worth exploring whether there are other people in your life who could lend a listening ear or a helping hand. And, if you feel comfortable, seeking professional help such as a grief counsellor might provide some additional guidance. It’s commendable how much you’ve been able to manage so far, even when faced with these heart-wrenching challenges.

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[raybo]

I wish i could give you a hug, something your husband wouldnt give you i bet

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