February 14, 2021 at 8:56 pm #14255February 14, 2021 at 9:13 pm #14256onlinecommunityKeymaster
Hi @tiki2072016, a warm welcome to the Griefline forums. Whist there was no body text in your post, the title speaks volumes about the grief and loss you must be experiencing right now – 8 years of supporting your partner as they battled cancer until you lost them just four weeks ago.
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We are here to listen, support and share our experiences in your time of need. We hope to hear from you again soon. 🌸February 14, 2021 at 9:45 pm #14257
Thank you for your kind words. Everything is working as it should technically just me being new to the set up.
We were together for 41yrs in a very loving relationship. It can be comforting in our home now & can be strange because she is not here. I am also comforting our pet dog . My partner died at home which was one of her last wishes. I do have support around me friends & partner’s family. We live in a small country town & never really feel alone. My stress at the moment is the business side of things…changing name to mine on utilities etc we had a will so mostly all is going well… it’s just having to notify so many areas to inform of passing it can be charged with emotion… I have looked at grief line website & acknowledge the stages of grief. I am eating but appetite not great…sleeping is changeable but I have natural relaxants to help. I am booked in to see my GP on the 26th I have an underactive thyroid which my medication was changed in November last year… just want to check in as I am trying to keep weight on…it could be my grieving & or thyroid as well. Thanks for being here . Regards Jean & Tiki.February 15, 2021 at 11:51 pm #14265onlinecommunityKeymaster
Hello @tiki2072016, we’re glad to see everything is working technically for you here on the forums now.
We are glad to be here for you. It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with your dear wife and no doubt many beautiful memories to enjoy and reminisce on. Feel free to tell us about her – it can be very therapeutic to talk or write about our loved ones and we would be pleased to hear more about her and your loving relationship of 41 years.
It sounds like you are employing lots of self-care strategies to deal with your grief. Seeking support from friends and family, gaining knowledge about the grief process, looking after your diet, attending to your sleep and checking in with your GP – all of these combined will help to ensure you have a good foundation to adapt to your changed circumstances and continue to live life in a meaningful way.
However, it seems you have a lot on your plate as you navigate all the paperwork involved. Perhaps it would be a good idea to tackle these things in small bites. Give yourself permission to take your time and be gentle on yourself.
We hope that you will keep in touch and let us know how you’re going. You are a welcome member of our community Tiki. 🌸February 21, 2021 at 9:13 pm #14317
Hello … Gee it really is a roller-coaster this Grief… I can find it hard talking to some people… expressing how I feel can be hard… I think they won’t understand so I claim up..I guess it’s human for people to talk about their experiences but sometimes it sounds nothing like I am going through…I feel the calmest when it is just me & the dog at home, admittedly there is plenty to sort through at home that can bring on emotions. I realise I need to interact with others … we were both private people & with Ange’s illness there wasn’t a lot of socialising for sometime … so I guess I’m moving towards the new “normal”?February 25, 2021 at 1:19 pm #14329GL friendParticipant
im sorry to hear about your loss. youre right grief is very much a rollercoaster and it sucks. some days i feel fine, other days im a crying mess, and other days i feel kind of numb. i also have a cat and love to keep her close when im missing my mum. i like to think she has my mums eyes lol youre right, it is like moving to a new normal and time kind of heals but i like to try and take things one day at a time. i think youre brave and strong to be facing this time with the curiousity and awareness that you are 🙂
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