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Home » Topics » Personal relationships » Losing a best friend and a boyfriend
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    Bel95
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    About 6 weeks ago now my now ex boyfriend out of the blue dumped me via text. We’ve been trying hard to stay friends still and stay in contact with eachother. We really were each others support system. Although with his severe personal issues he’s taken a huge step back and we have drifted. It’s been years since I’ve felt this lonely. I live in a fairly small town with not too much to do unless you like sport, (which I hate). Covid is making socialising even harder too. Although I do work a couple of days a week I find myself constantly trying to reach out to people just to talk because I’m so lonely. Unfortunately I really only have 2 friends and one of which lives 2 hours away. This pain of missing my boyfriend is really getting to me. Not being able to message him and talk about small things, or let him know when I’m feeling down. Although our breakup was for the best long term, I miss him so badly and miss what we had. The nights are long and quiet. Im not living I’m just existing right now.

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    Dear @Bel95, welcome to the forums. We’re sorry that it’s taken some time to catch up with your post. We value you and your story and thank you for sharing it with us. Our hearts go out to you for the loneliness you’re feeling after such a sudden break-up.

    It’s been a week now since you posted and we’re wondering how things have progressed? It seems like COVID is really starting to take a toll on so many in our forums now. Isolation and a lack of social support only serve to amplify our grief whether it’s for someone who has died or the death of a relationship. Knowing that you are not alone in your experience is sometimes helpful so you might like to check out and engage with @ezza2432 ’s post here – she too is feeling lonely and isolated having moved towns and grieving over a boyfriend’s death some time ago + relationships ending since.
    We understand how debilitating loneliness can be…and the desperate need for human connection but remember when you reach out to talk to people they too might be lonely and truly grateful that you reached out to them. Our article on Relationship Loss expands on this … “Recognise that everyone is flawed and makes mistakes. Although we often think that everyone else has their life sorted out correctly, recognising that we are all in the same boat and that everyone fumbles for the right word or feels unsure about what to say at times. We all do it at some time”. You can read more here.


    @Bel95
    you’ve been through a lot, and you deserve compassion. Be kind to yourself and know that things won’t always be like this…they will get better. But to help you through perhaps try some of the meditation/journaling and breathing exercises here on our Mindfulness page.

    We hope these are helpful for now, please let us know how you’re going and keep in touch. We are here for you. 🌸

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