How do I love again

[ilovchat]

I’m not as friendly or nice as before my losses How do I change my current love language?

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[VM_karina34]

Hi @ilovchat and thank you for reaching out.
Losing a loved one can definitely change you in ways you would have never thought possible. But I wonder if it’s mainly your perception of yourself that has changed? What makes you say you aren’t as nice or friendly as before? Sometimes, especially while we are in the most intense part of the grieving process, we spend all our mental energy on getting through each day, so we don’t have much energy to give to others, whether it is patience or pleasantries, and I think as long as you’re not intentionally hurting someone, that is completely valid.
My advice would be to be kind to yourself while you are going through this difficult time.

[VM-rose]

Hello @ilovechat, thank you so much for reaching out to Griefline. I can definitely relate to feeling not as ‘friendly’ or ‘nice’ as you did before your grief. The way you are feeling is completely natural. Grief is a personal and unique experience for every individual and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. I lost my rabbit at the end of 2023 and I can vividly remember an experience where I felt like I was behaving like a completely different person. I was angry, frustrated and in deep emotional pain. As we all have our own personal experiences, I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. As @VM_karina34 stated, be kind to yourself while you are going through this difficult time. You can call Griefline on 1300 845 745 between the hours of 8am and 8pm, 7 days a week. You can also request a callback at a time that suits you. There are also some great insights and coping strategies on the Griefline resources page: https://griefline.org.au/resources. You can also continue to connect with others by using the Griefline forum. It’s so important during this incredibly difficult time to connect with others who are going through grief and loss. You’ve taken a courageous first step by reaching out to Griefline. We’re here to listen and support you.

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