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I wanted to check in and see how things were going these past few months, as I can only imagine things are still very raw after the loss of your husband in January.
I wanted you to know that there are people out there who understand the pain of your loss, you are not alone (even though it might feel like you are). There is no pressure or expectation for you to respond, I just read your email and it resonated with me. When my loved one passed away it was such a shock and everyone around me seemed to be going on as if it never happened. For me though, everything changed and I found it really difficult to even do the basics, to be honest sometimes I still find it challenging to do the basics.
However, I think the most important thing has been to been learning to be kind to myself. If I cannot face the world, I don’t, if I need to talk to someone and cry I pick up the phone, if the only thing that helps me is to zone out and distract myself with Netflix I feel no guilt about it! I don’t want to say things get better because I think when we lose people the impacts are felt for the rest of our lives. Though these days I see my pain as a testament to how much love I felt and that brings me comfort (so does my cat).
I would love to know how you have been doing, but again it is okay if you don’t respond.