Reply To: Pre-grieving Mum (fear of death)

[vmladybug]

Hi cthe3, thank you for reaching out through the griefline forum.

I’m sorry to hear of the news of your mother, whilst losing our parents is something that everyone goes through at some point in their life this doesn’t make it an easy process.

It sounds like this is bringing up a lot of emotions for you, please remember this is normal and no one experiences grief in quite the same way. Im wondering if you have reached out to any services for assistance in the management of some of these feelings?

I feel it important to also remind you that you have no reason to feel guilty for struggling to cope.

I wonder whether there are any things you can think of that you and your mother could do together in her finals months to honour your relationship? This could be specific to something you both like, or something more simple like spending an afternoon together making a scrapbook.

Whilst the process of death is never easy, making the most of your final months together might aid you in her passing.

You’re doing a fantastic job and I’m sure your mum is so grateful to have you.