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Thank you for sharing your experience with us all here. It sounds like what you experienced was complicated, confusing, and difficult. What you are feeling is completely normal and you have been very strong to get to where you are today!
Those feelings sound very difficult to experience. On the subject of guilt, sometimes our emotions don’t always make “sense”. This is an emotionally confusing experience for you. It is understandable that, although you did love who he was in the first 10 years of marriage, after he changed so did your relationship with him and your feelings towards him. It is COMPLETELY VALID to not miss abuse or your abuser, and it is normal if you still feel love for him too.
If you continue having these strong emotions and find them difficult to manage, please feel free to reach out to us here or through our helpline. Are you still in contact with a counselor who can help guide you through this? If not 1800RESPECT also have a counselling helpline dedicated to guiding those who have experienced domestic abuse and would be happy to help with those complicated feelings that are coming up.