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Dear @Sanj, my heart goes out to you at this frightening and uncertain time.
And my heart dropped when I saw that our community were unable to share any insights or suggestions to support you. Please know that we at Griefline are here for you now and all the way through this very difficult time.
It sounds like you have a very precious bond with your wife and a rare love and admiration for her. No doubt your love and support is helping her navigate the shock of the diagnosis and challenges of treatment.
How have you been holding up since you last posted? We would not blame you if you’ve dropped your brave face – after all you are only human. And your grief deserves to be witnessed. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable and real in front of your beloved wife – even if you just block out half an hour …or half a day to cry and express your sorrow. Scheduling in time to let your grief out allows you to continue with your responsibilities while acknowledging the profound pain you are going through. Its very likely your beautiful wife recognises the turmoil you’re experiencing anyway – she knows you and your love so well.
It sounds like your daughter is suffering also. At this time, providing comfort and reassurance and maintaining the routines which have been in place is the best way to support her. Routines will provide her with a sense of security and predictability. When grief issues are recognised particularly within a safe, open and sensitive manner, children and teenagers may not feel so alone or disengaged from their family, friends, social groups or at school. We have more information regarding Grief and Loss For Children and Adolescents here on our Resource Hub; https://griefline.org.au/resources/grief-and-loss-for-children/
And finally, we would like to help you get back into a healthy sleeping pattern as this will assist you to continue supporting your wife. Our article on dealing with insomnia may be of help; https://griefline.org.au/resources/dealing-with-insomnia/
@Sanj, we hope you will respond to let us know whats happening for you this week. Remember that the Griefline team are always here for you.