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Dear @j.sinclair84 welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your loss experience with our community. Our hearts are with you at this devastating time.
Losing your Dad at his young age is so difficult – you describe your heart feeling ‘empty’. Sometimes it’s reassuring to know that you are not alone in your grief response. Feeling numb – even in a state of disbelief is a common reaction in the early days following such a profound loss.
Having your boys grieving for their Poppy adds another layer of pain for you. As parents, we want to fix things for our kids. Unfortunately, this is the one thing you are unable to fix. However, by talking about it with your boys in an open and sensitive way the three of you will feel less alone in your grief experience. You’ll find more information about grief and loss for children and adolescents here on our resource hub.
With such a lot on your plate, it’s also really important to be kind to yourself and to treat yourself with patience and compassion. Give yourself permission to not cope even just for a little while – by asking others for support. Allow yourself to be ‘held’ by others in these early days as you get yourself back on your feet.
@j.sinclair84, please keep reaching out to us here on the forums…we are here for you. 🌸