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Hello @ToniC, welcome to the forums. Our hearts go out to you for the loss of your son and for the many challenges you are facing.

Thank you for your courage in expressing what is going on for you right now. It sounds like life feels overwhelming, as you are not only dealing with your grief but on top of that, the intense needs of your family.

Your son sounds like he was a wonderful young man with a kind heart. When we lose someone we love so dearly with no clear understanding of what happened to them we call it an ambiguous loss. This type of loss can leave you searching for answers and can interfere with the grief process by delaying it or complicating it. This is perhaps one of the reasons for your grief feeling just as strong as it did at the start.

With all the demands placed on you by your family, we are wondering whether you have found time to attend to your own grief? There is only so much you can give of yourself before you will feel completely depleted and unable to deal with the smallest of issues let alone the complexities of dealing with your husband’s verbal abuse and your son’s drug issues.

That’s why practising self-care is so important. The ‘tips on coping with loss’ article on our Resource Hub is a good place to find ways to attend to your own wellbeing which will help build up the strength and resilience required to handle your family’s situation. Things like;
– Note down coping strategies on post-it notes to turn to when you’re struggling. Stick them to high-use items such as your computer, steering wheel or fridge.
– Identify your strengths and remind yourself of the challenges you have overcome before this. Change your self-image from a ‘victim’ to a ‘survivor’ and even a ‘thriver’.
– Express your thoughts and feelings. You can use the written word such as journaling, poetry or letter writing, or other expressive ways such as painting, photography, scrapbooking, dance and music.

we hope you can find more time to practice self-care. Please let us know if these strategies are in any way helpful. Either way, keep posting – we are here for you to support you through all the complexities of the difficult grief journey you find yourself on. 🌸

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