Hi @Robyn, thank you for sharing such heartfelt memories of the wonderful life and the loving relationship you shared with your husband. It seems that together you forged a bond that we would all aspire to. Your husband sounds like a truly lovely man who lived life to the full. He cared for others, for the future of the planet and perhaps knew better than most of us how precious the simple things in life are – like your cuddles and cups of tea. Though it seems impossible now, in time we hope you will find joy when you reminisce about these moments in your life.
For now, we acknowledge that it’s difficult for you to see an end to your overpowering grief or even a possibility of finding happiness again. And you have every right to feel like this and respond in this way to such a great loss in your life.
Perhaps these words by David Kessler from the book “On Grief and Grieving” might help you to feel validated in your experience and even see a glimmer of hope;
“Grief is the intense emotional response to the pain of a loss. It is the reflection of a connection that has been broken.
Most important, grief is an emotional, spiritual, and psychological journey to healing.
There is wonder in the power of grief.
We don’t appreciate its healing powers, yet they are extraordinary and wondrous.
It is just as amazing as the physical healing that occurs after a car accident or major surgery.
Grief transforms the broken, wounded soul, a soul that no longer wants to get up in the morning, a soul that can find no reason for living, a soul that has suffered an unbelievable loss.
Grief alone has the power to heal.”
(Kubler-Ross & Kessler, 2014, p. 227)
Perhaps others in our community have books, passages or poems they’d like to share with @Robyn??
Please keep posting @Robyn. We are here for you. 🌸