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Home » Loss of a loved one » Found my sister at 40 years of age deceased last week cannot cope » Reply To: Found my sister at 40 years of age deceased last week cannot cope
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Hi @tambalam, welcome to the Griefline forums. We can see from your overnight posts that you have been experiencing an extreme level of distress since the passing of your sister last week. Our hearts go out to you in this traumatic, devastating and confusing time. We acknowledge your immeasurable strength and fortitude to reach out to our community last night seeking support and coping strategies. We want you to know that we are here for you now and for what lies ahead.
It’s good to see that you are seeking further support through ongoing counselling. It might be helpful to know that in some states the Coroner’s court provides a family relationships unit made up of allied health professionals including counsellors, psychologists and social workers.
Your GP is another excellent support, especially after such a traumatic incident. So, if you haven’t had a chance yet we recommend booking an appointment to discuss your experience of grief – both your physical and mental symptoms.
At this early time in the grieving process, you could consider yourself in ‘intensive care’. Be kind to yourself. Practice self-care whenever you can – try to eat healthily, drink plenty of water, spend time in the fresh air and perhaps take some exercise. Surround yourself with people who care for you – family and friends who are understanding, professionals trained in grief and loss and empathetic people with shared experience (like us here on the forums). It can be very comforting to feel held by a tribe of people with your best interests at heart.
Sometimes it’s helpful to remember that everyone’s experience of grief is unique to them – and is normal. Like you, many people experience intense emotions such as fear, anger or sadness alongside physical sensations. Often our bodies respond to an emotion with a specific response such as nausea, jitters, heaviness in the chest, feeling hot, cold or clammy. It can be an unsettling experience but it’s our body’s way of enabling us identify these feelings. It often helps to name and stay with the feelings … even if you can only manage this for a very short time. By doing this you might achieve a feeling of competency to deal with the emotions. And relief. Your journaling could be really helpful to document these emotions, possibly with a scale of their severity. Over time you will see them soften and become much more bearable.


@Tambalam
, we hope these initial coping strategies are helpful. Its a lot to take in …but when you’re ready you can tap into the Griefline Resource Hub for more information on grief, loss and trauma. more coping strategies and some tools for rest and relaxation (including this sleep story which may help to soothe you at night).

Please let us know how you are going. We are here for you. 🌸