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  • in reply to: Loss of a loved one #40093
    daniellee
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    My Mum died suddenly last September, I simm her so much. My family is down to just me, my sister and my grandmother, who is my one remaining grandparent. My stepdad is no longer talking to us following legal issues with Mum’s will. All this has triggered my depression and anxiety as well. I’m scared of of what will happen to me when my grandmother dies, I don’t want to lose anyone else. Mum always fought for me, she got me help when I first had depression. I miss that, that she’s not here to help me now, and I feel alone.

    in reply to: Loss of grandparent #40090
    VM-bluesky
    Participant

    Hi vixeni,
    I’m sure you will treasure that video call, and no doubt reflect fondly on your relationship with him and what you learnt from him – over time, this will help you form a continuing bond. Loss of a key family member can bring up a lot of feelings and even changes in dynamics within a family. So many potential things COULD happen in the future, but most will not. When you know what you are dealing with, you will address it like you have done with other situations all your life. So try to focus on the present moment and deal with what is the task at hand right now – it sounds like you may need to discuss the situation with your boss so you can make a better informed decision. In the end, many things and other peoples’ responses are outside of your control – you can only focus on what is within your control. Please also consider reaching out to one of the Griefline volunteers on 1300 845 745 to chat about it.

    in reply to: Loss of my mum #40089
    VM-Lottie24
    Participant

    So sorry to hear you have lost your Mum, Annmarie. You’re dealing with so much loss and sadness – it’s complelety understandable that you feel broken and not able to see a way forward. Perhaps now isn’t the time to be making any big plans, but focus on small actions which support your own sense of safety and wellbeing. Having a daily routine which incorporates self-care and something that connects you to a feeling of peace, can bring a sense of stablity when everything feels a bit out of your control. This can be as simple as a walk in the park or having a warm bath in the evening to help you wind down and calm your thoughts. If you have a sympatheic GP, they may be a good resource for accessing support for you locally – and may be able to link you up with counselling.
    You’re doing so well and are brave to reach out. Perhaps reading some of the resources on the Griefline website may help you decide what is right for you at this time. https://griefline.org.au/resources/

    in reply to: Loss of my mum #40088
    VM-bluesky
    Participant

    I’m so sorry to hear of your losses Annmarie. At major life transition times like this, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed and lost. Its very wise that you have reached out for support via this forum, and I urge you to also ring Griefline on 1300 845 745 between 8am and 8pm EST to chat with one of our volunteers who can help support you on your grief journey and refer you to other supports. Its important that you don’t go through this alone.

    in reply to: Loss of a loved one #40087
    annmarie
    Participant

    Hi I’m relatively new to this. I lost my mum 7 weeks ago, she was in a nursing home and suffered from vascular dementia. Even though she was sick her death wasn’t excpected so suddenly. I’m struggling. I also lost my dad in September last year and my two elderly cats (my children) just before that. I have no siblings and am alone. I miss my mum incredibly and am struggling with my anxiety and depression. The one cat I have left which is mums is not well at the moment also so I’m panicking as well.

    The grief of all my losses is unimaginable and I feel like no one understands but the loss of my mum has totally broken me. I don’t know how to move forward. Any advice would be great. Thank you.

    in reply to: Grief for oneself #39912
    VM-Serenity66
    Participant

    Dear davidb316,

    Thank you for reaching out and sharing with us. I want you to know that your feelings are valid and make perfect sense in light of the pain and difficulties you’ve experienced throughout your life. It takes courage to express your thoughts and emotions, especially when life feels overwhelming and hopeless.
    It sounds like you’ve been carrying the weight of trauma and pain for a long time, and it’s completely natural to feel exhausted and disillusioned. Please know that healing and hope are still possible, even when it feels like you’ve been in darkness for a long time.

    If you feel you are at imminent risk of taking your own life, please do not hesitate to call 000 for urgent help.
    Lifeline volunteers are on hand to help you with crisis support on 13 11 14 (24 hrs), or Suicide Callback Service on 1300 659 467

    Most importantly, know that you are not alone, and your life has value. Healing and personal growth are not linear processes, and setbacks are a natural part of the journey. With the right support and resources, it’s possible to rediscover a sense of hope and purpose.

    If you’re not in immediate danger, and feel up to a compassionate conversation about your sense of loss and grief, please reach out to our Helpline (1300 845 745 8am-8pm) to connect with a caring volunteer.

    Take care. We’re here for you.

    in reply to: Grief of a best friend/soul sister #39881
    vm-jessie
    Participant

    Hi Missy,
    The death of a soul sister is such a huge loss. I sometimes think society underestimates the bond of friendship and the grief that happens when they are no longer there. Your friendship sounded incredibly special and to be diagnosed and pass away in such a quick period must have been such a shock. I’m sure many people have told you that grief doesn’t have a time frame; it comes and goes, and ebbs and flows. Some days you feel like you’ve got it all together, and the next you can’t get out of bed, especially on days like her birthday or the anniversary of her death. I have a photo of a dear loved friend where I light a candle or put a cup of tea or glass of wine and we talk. That helps me feel connected to her even though she isn’t here in body I feel her in spirit. Sending you all the love. J

    claraflo
    Participant

    Hi Shaz
    I’m so sorry to read your post snd hear how lonely you are. I’ve just lost my husband- it hasn’t really hit me yet but I can still hear his voice and imagine him raising his eyebrows at my bad jokes.
    It’s just hard. I’m so sorry.

    in reply to: Loss of a loved one #39877
    davidb316
    Participant

    I feel like I’m existing; dead already. All I’ve been through. Hard to put in to words. Where is life? Where’s revival in my life; my heart?
    More years behind than there are ahead.
    Raped, bullied, told to kill myself by a “family” member, survived suicide attempt and such. It created such anxiety in me.
    Not sure what to do. Just marching along to the end, it feels like.
    Not wanting to die but, if death called, I’d be thinking of embracing it like a friend knowing it’s over….it’s finally over.
    Not even sure I’m making sense.

    in reply to: Grief of a best friend/soul sister #39875
    vmmaggie
    Participant

    Dear Missy 2001 – thank you for sharing around your grief journey following the death of your close friend. The 12 month anniversary and her recent birthday are those marker events which heighten the both the sense of loss and that actual sense of ‘goneness’. As said previously, grief is not a linear process, has its own rhythm of good days and bad days.
    Hopefully you are able to reflect on the privilege associated with your special gift of presence and ‘being there’ during those last months and, in time, share stories with her child about the special person their mother is.
    I find it a worthwhile ritual to have a candle alight beside the photo of a deceased loved one particularly on significant days, talking to them too in a way that underpins your continuing bond. VMmaggie

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