Loss of a Loved One

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Welcome to a place to discuss the loss of a partner, family member, close friend or anyone significant in your life.

Everyone grieves differently. Your grief is as unique as your own fingerprint. However, while often immensely painful, grief is our natural healing process in response to loss.

Grief comes and goes, it can be intense and then manageable, predictable and then uncontrollable. It might be brought on by a recent loss or a historical one, be triggered by an anniversary or the dread of an approaching milestone.

This forum is a safe and emotionally supportive space. It is a place to be accepted and understood by others who can empathise with you. You can feel free to remember your loved one and tell us about your grief journey. Together we can learn to understand the changing nature of grief over time while sharing coping tools and ways to practice self-care.

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[vmrose33]

Hello Jessg

I am sorry to see that your comment here didn’t get a reply. You might like to try starting a new post. Did you try the helpline again? Do try again – 1300 845 745 between the hours of 8am and 8pm, 7 days a week (AEST/AEDT), or another option is to request a callback at a time that suits you. https://calendly.com/griefline_request_a_callback/30min?month=2025-02

Kind regards & take care,

Vmrose33

[jessg]

Hello is there anyone out there

[jessg]

I tried ringing this help line and no answer. Then I tried this online and it seems like no one has posted in many weeks?

[VM_soulcat8]

Hi @sammie2410,

I am reaching out to see how you are going. Your world was turned upside down and you were brave enough to reach out for help professionally and here online. Since the journey through grief and loss doesn’t happen in a day I wanted to check in and see how you are travelling. The people in this forum will always be here for support and encouragement.

[VM-Serenity66]

Hi @nurseellie,

It sounds like a lot to cope with, losing your father and stepfather in not much more than a year. At the same time, it sounds like you know yourself really well and are taking your healing at a pace that is right for you. There is no timeline, so that can happen at your speed. The circumstances you described are really challenging and I can imagine why your grief might be complicated by anger and a sense of injustice.

If you feel that there are not a lot of people around you that you can talk this through with, please feel free to ring our helpline on 1300 845 745 (8am – 8pm) for a conversation with a compassionate volunteer.

There are also some resources that you might find helpful at https://griefline.org.au/resources

[nurseellie]

Hi there,

I lost my father in June 2023, then my Stepfather in August 2024. I haven’t had much time off at all. What really gets me is the triggers. They are slow to recover from. Sleep and the accompanying peace is the ultimate cure. I just want to be alone and not being pushed to get out of my comfort zone, which has happpened and I find triggering. I do get out and try to connect with people because that is meant to be healing. I just think because grief weaves its own path I’m unrealiable to commit to anything major like dating or sport in case a wave of grief takes over or I am triggered.

I know I am not dealing with it because my sleep it rather affected by the grief when I wake up or cannot unwind before bed. I am throwing all the resources I can at it and they work.

I don’t have a group of friends to rely on so I cope by myself most of the time and I am very sensitive person. The bereavement process does make me grow up though so it is a mixed blessing. I don’t try the lay it on thick.

I have visions of my Stepfather and being at home at Xmas has been occasionally distressing. The whole episode surrounding his death was an act of incompetence by the Ambos and we I forgive them but still want some sort of restorative justice for John. He wasn’t ready to go. I reported the Ambos anyway.

Anyway, my poor fathers died in a lot of pain so where is the justice in that? Knowing full well that justice-seeking won’t eck out what I want necessarily.

Thank you kindly for listening to me. Nursesellie

[VMPatch]

Hello@sammie2410
I am so sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your partner and the immense pain you are feeling. It is normal to feel a profound sense of loss when someone you love dies. You have taken a wise step in reaching out for some support by posting in this forum and also by seeking professional help.
If you are having thoughts of suicide I strongly encourage you to call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or the Suicide Call back service Ph 1300 659 467 ( you must have your caller ID on your phone turned on if you ring this service).
Griefline is also here if you want to talk with one of our trained volunteers on our Helpline Ph 1300 845 745 ( 8am to 8pm AEDT). We are here to support you as you go through this painful time. Our website also has some good information to read about coping with grief – look under the resources tab

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We hope you will continue to seek the support you need .

[jenn]

I haven’t posted on here in awhile, actually only once before when ,my partner had recently died, maybe 6 months after. I was in a hole. 2 years on…. and the hole still is here, this afternoon I have filled in the time with activities… but i am doing everything in my power to not open a bottle of wine, as I know that isn’t a fix to the problem. I dont drink a lot. When Clint first died I drank whisly every night, even just had it in my water sipping it. But have gotten rid of that habit… but now I replace it with other bad habits, like binge eating.
I just read someones post and how they had attempted to take their own life 7 times since their partner died. It’s really tough, there are not quick fixes or the right things to do. I think just taking each moment. So on that note I am going to open that bottle of wine.
Thank you for letting me get my thoughts and feelings down and somewhere where i know I wont be judged.
x

[sammie2410]

I lost my partner unexpectedly in a car accident, he was young sooo full of life. He was only 2mins from home.

My whole world has been turned upside down, we had enrolled into university to do our Enrolled Nursing degree. Since the accident I have spiraled into addiction where I tried overdosing 7 times 4 out of those 7times I was found non-responsive.
I’m really finding it difficult to cope/deal with all the emotions/feelings and have switched off too everyday life, I’m very isolated and have a GP appointment to engage in reaching out professionally…

[VM-Serenity66]

@shazza I’m so sorry that you have lost your Mum. Special days can be really hard and it sounds like Mother’s Day really brings it in especially hard for you, particularly being the first one since she passed. It’s understandable that you don’t really want to do anything at the moment. Grieving takes so much energy. Perhaps your body knows its the right thing to do to stop, take stock for a moment, and spend some time taking good care of yourself while you let those emotions wash through.

It may be worth taking a little time with Griefline’s resources hub, particularly https://griefline.org.au/resources/east-self-care-guide/ as you work your way through this big adjustment. I wonder, what are all the things you now do as a mum, that have come from all the good things that your Mum meant to you?

It can help to talk. If you want to, please feel free to reach out to one of our compassionate volunteers on the Helpline (8am – 8pm) on 1300 845 745.

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