Loss of a Loved One

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Welcome to a place to discuss the loss of a partner, family member, close friend or anyone significant in your life.

Everyone grieves differently. Your grief is as unique as your own fingerprint. However, while often immensely painful, grief is our natural healing process in response to loss.

Grief comes and goes, it can be intense and then manageable, predictable and then uncontrollable. It might be brought on by a recent loss or a historical one, be triggered by an anniversary or the dread of an approaching milestone.

This forum is a safe and emotionally supportive space. It is a place to be accepted and understood by others who can empathise with you. You can feel free to remember your loved one and tell us about your grief journey. Together we can learn to understand the changing nature of grief over time while sharing coping tools and ways to practice self-care.

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[kent]

My wife died 19 days ago she was only 64 we have been together for 28years i am having trouble coping with everything the house is so quiet and lonely

[missingsomeone]

@alisonjg
Hang in there,it’s a tough journey,I started a journal and did a nice big photo frame with pics of mum that really helped me,I also did some pics and videos on my phone,think of all the memories u have with your mum,big hugs thinking of u in this tough time

[alisonjg]

Sending you lots of strength, love and hugs

[missingsomeone]

@alisonjg
I’m hearing ya,I’ve never been one to stay in my pjs all day but I’ve had a couple of those days,eating and sleeping just aren’t something I do at the moment so can’t help there,I’m an executor of my mums will along with my brother and sister,it was daunting going to the solicitor the first time not knowing what was happening but they go through things with u and made it a bit easier,we r just going through that stuff now,I did not expect to loose mum at all she went in for a infection,12 weeks on she didn’t come out,was the biggest shock,your right though u just expect they will b there forever my mum was just 69,just take each day as it comes I cry nearly everyday for mum and not a second of the day I’m
Not thinking of her and all the what ifs what should we have done differently,some days I don’t even want to b living,but hr by hr we get through,missing them will never go away,your not alone though there’s always someone to talk to

[alisonjg]

Thank you so much. People keep telling me to take care and I’m trying so hard every day just to get out bed, eat, shower, drink water. I just wish I could fast forward a few months. I’m also the executor of her will which is stressing me out.
I’m so sorry you lost your mum too. We think they’ll be there forever somehow. Her mum lived into her 90s so I thought she would too. But dementia had other plans.
Sending you big hugs too.

[missingsomeone]

@alisonjg
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum,it’s been the hardest thing in my life loosing my mum she died in January,I felt like I was forced back to work to early but now I’m back it’s been easier and what keeps me going,I still feel alone,I’ve lived with her for the last year,I still don’t
Eat or sleep properly apparently that all takes time,just take each moment as it comes,sending big hugs to u

[alisonjg]

I lost my mum just over two weeks ago. I feel completely lost. She was my best friend. I just feel so alone. I find the day very long and empty. The house seems so quiet and empty. I went back to work this week and it was so difficult trying to be normal. I can’t enjoy things, I can’t laugh, I struggle to eat. My cat is the main reason I get out of bed.just wanted to share as I feel lonely tonight.

[isabelle1320]

Hello,
I had started a new post relating to post-suicide survivor guilt, however, realised this should come under a new topic which I will create. Please ignore this post and see my original message under the new topic ‘Suicide Survivor Guilt’

Thanks

• This reply was modified 3 weeks, 5 days ago by isabelle1320. Reason: Needs its own topic

[isabelle1320]

Hi Barry,

8 months is not a very long time at all and I think it is good that your body is letting you cry and release the enormous amount of built up energy that reflect how much you treasured her life.
I don’t know the details of her life /passing, but can you recall the last thing you and her spoke about or did together? Sometimes this helps bring up good memories that can put you in a different perspective about how her life ended.

I hope you have support from friends/family mate. Looking at who attended her memorial may also help you feel less alone. It is super hard to get the energy to do this but I found it helped me – even now 8 years after my mother passed away. It’s hard when your body wants to cling onto the harsh feelings but it is worth finding these hidden gems.

Wish you all the best

[barry]

Hi

My wife passed away 8 months ago and i still cannot stop crying .
I have never felt so lonely
in my life.

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