Upcoming loss

[lavenderkey]

He is near that age – I have been told anticipatory grief. Waiting and waiting for some time. I’m new to forum.

I loss my mother some years ago and it was strange time. I am estranged from father and really is was BAD guy but still father.

I had seen a show on tv about inheritance and I am concerned about this, contact with family, lawyers, nothing- it’s all in future.

I know he has not died yet but really I’m looking regardless at cemetery records awaiting it. He is unhealthy man and really he is really outliving what I expected he would get to. I check these records when I think I can handle it.

I was close initially to my mother but not father. There was turmoil in family. Bad father issues. I mean BAD.

I’m not sure of my reaction and someone said to reach out to grief line.

I know that he has not died, so sorry if I’m way off base but it’s shortly.

He is just bad person and really I may have ANY reaction.

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[VM-flo]

Dear lavenderkey,

Thank you for reaching out. This is a safe space where you can connect with others who understand.

What you’re describing can be a form of anticipatory grief, and it sounds like there are many complex and conflicting feelings tied into your relationship and the situation with your father.

Whatever you’re feeling is valid. Experiences like this can bring up a mix of emotions, especially when relationships have been difficult.

If it feels right for you, you can contact our helpline: 1300 845 745, 9am to 8pm AEDT.

You don’t have to hold this on your own, we are here to listen.

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