Struggling after sudden loss of my Mum

[sezzie80]

I lost my mum suddenly one week ago.
I am struggling to do anything other than watch TV. My sleep is affected as well.
I just don’t know what to do….
Any ideas to help?

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[VM-angel33]

Hi @sezzie80

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. Grief can really take a toll on us, our emotions, functioning and sleep.
Please be kind to yourself and know it’s okay to do less when you’re dealing with more.
I have attached some resources for sleep and self care activities

Please know our helpline is available 8am-8pm everyday and we also have support groups.

A gentle guide to self-care after loss: The E.A.S.T. approach

Tips to Improve Your Sleep

Discover the Secrets to Better Sleep with Dr. Moira Junge

https://griefline.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Transcript-Courageous-Conversation-Sleep-health-and-grief.pdf

Discover the Secrets to Better Sleep with Dr. Moira Junge

Take care and many hugs

Vm-Angel

[VM_Bluebird]

Hi @sezzie80,
I wanted to reach out and see how you are? I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mother recently. I can only imagine the enormity of your loss. I wanted to reassure you that sleep issues are common after such a huge loss and shock. Grief is a strange and personal journey. Just go one step at a time and listen to what your mind and body needs. Be it a cuppa, a quiet walk, a good cry, being with friends, whatever you need. I know when my father died that it was like time stood still for a while. Know that however you are reacting that’s ok. Be gentle with yourself at this difficult time and stay healthy. If you need a kind ear just reach out to the helpline at https://griefline.org.au/get-help/nationwide-telephone-support/

[vm-Maisy]

@sezzie80
Hi there, Its been a couple of weeks since your post. I have attached a link to a post another community member has written in hopes that you find some relation.
I have attached a guide to assist in sleep as well. These are tips I use myself.
I hope you are well and know that you are not alone in this sudden loss and that we are here to support you in whatever you need however we can help.

Moira Junge – My story of grief, sleep, and the paths they’ve led me on
Sleep help

[VM-Johann]

Thank you for reaching out Sezzie, I can imagine the immensity of emotions you must be feeling right now so soon after your mother passing so suddenly, and I’m so sorry for your loss.

The difficulty in engaging in anything, and feeling at a standstill, is a completely normal reaction to what you have experienced. It is also completely normal for other parts of your daily cycle such as sleeping and eating to be greatly affected. Do you have any friend or family supports around you at this time? Sometimes people can find it very difficult to tell those closest to them that their grief is having a profound effect on them, but if you have that trusted network around you it can help take one step in sharing the heaviness.

Griefline has a number of support resources that may help you through your journey of grief, how to ensure you keep looking after yourself and help prepare you for what will be a very personal process – hopefully it might help https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-grief/

If you haven’t had the chance to talk through what you are feeling with anyone yet – please reach to the telephone helpline. It it available 7 days a week between 8am to 8pm (AEST) https://griefline.org.au/get-help/nationwide-telephone-support/

The fact you have been able to reach out on the forum is a good sign of your inner strength to recognise when you need that extra help – that self awareness of your needs will greatly support you at this time.

Please keep connected through the forum or the Helpline, there are many here who have been through similar journeys and will be very willing to share their experiences to make the road ahead a little bit smoother where possible. Take care.

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