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The lead up to Mothers Day can be full of pain and sorrow for those of us who have lost our mum. That’s why we felt it was important to recognise Mothers Day in the forums. We’re inviting our community members (CMs) to share your experience with your mother figure here.
(Please note: we understand that Mums come in many forms – she may be your biological mum, foster/adoptive mum, grandmother, aunty, guardian, sister, mother-figure…they are all equally valued in this space. However, for ease of use in this topic, we will refer to the maternal figure as ‘mum’….)
This month Griefline is exploring ‘Meaning-Making’ as part of grief recovery. Meaning-making is making sense of our loss by finding restorative “benefits” or life lessons in the experience. ‘Continuing Bonds’ is a common technique used in meaning-making. The idea is not to give death any more power than it already has… We need to say our loved one’s name, tell their stories, share memories and avoid losing our important connection with them.
Here are a couple of techniques you can use to continue your bond with your mum;
• Introduce your ‘Mum’ – we invite you to tell us about your mum, what were her special qualities and strengths? Do you have any favourite stories about her? Perhaps she had a favourite song or TV show you’d like to share. Or you might like to post one of her recipes… its really up to you….
• “Hello again” letters – try writing a letter to your mum (or loved one). This can help to re-establish contact with their memory. It’s something you might prefer to try in private at first and perhaps publish later if you are keen to share. Some people like to start their letter with “The one thing I have wanted to ask you is…” or “What I need you to know about me is…”. When you’re ready you can then write a response letter in the words of your mum (or loved one).
So over to you CMs – we’d love to see some mother love here soon. 🌸
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