Loneliness after losing my Mum

[kerber]

I lost my Mum in October. I feel so alone. I rang my Mum at a minimum once a week, most of the time it was about 4/5 times a week. We were so close, we’d talk about everything. My husband tries really hard to be there for me but he just doesn’t understand what I’m going through. And due to other complicated circumstances we now live almost 2hrs from each other, I miss him so much during the week. We try to see each other every weekend, it’s hard when we both work weekends. I have 3 siblings and I still don’t think they get how I feel. I was the closest to our Mum. My older sister won’t return my calls or texts, I’ve done nothing wrong but try to be supportive of everyone around me going through the grief of losing her, my 3 kids included. I haven’t cried around any of them and have checked in regularly to see how they are doing but I’m losing it now. I’ve held it together for so long and now I’m either really angry or really sad all the time. I feel like I’ve lost everyone not just my Mum. The loneliness really gets me down more than anything. How do others cope with this?

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[VM-flo]

Dear Kerber
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, I can’t imagine how this would feel, losing your best friend.
It sounds like you had a beautiful, strong and supportive relationship with your mum, and I can hear how much she meant to you.

It also sounds like you are experiencing the loss of not having your husband around and not being able to see him every day would be challenging. You are there for your family, but no one seems to be supporting you.
Reaching out here is a great way to see how others may be moving through their grief. If you are up to speaking to someone, please reach out to the helpline: 1300 845 745 (AEST) between 8am and 8pm.

Everyone has their own unique way of grieving and coping, and there is no right or wrong way to navigate loss. Quite often in the months after a significant loss, it can feel the most isolating. Keeping a self-care routine can be one way of making sure you are helping yourself.
Griefline also offers support groups online which may help connect with like-minded people: https://griefline.org.au/get-help/bereavement-support-groups/

Thank you for reaching out during this difficult time, you are not alone and we are here to listen.

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