Just a Reflection for Pet Lovers

[abc01]

Dear All,

I have been posting alot recently as I am feeling alot of emotions and trying to work through my grief.
But I had a reflection today I wanted to share. As I don’t know where I sit with it.

Animals/Pets: Everything is great for awhile (10 years) & then they start to really age and change from then onwards.
There are behavioral and physical challenges that arise, with aging. (And they are sooo expensive to treat at a vet) But you have to.
And then they pass away. (At whatever age) There is so much pain to say goodbye.

Do you ignore all of that and try again? Only to be crushed when they pass too.
When do you stop ignoring it? And decide it isn’t the best for you anymore?
What will you have in your life if you don’t have them?

Thank you for listening,
ABC01

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[VM-Bodie]

Hi ABC01,

Your reflection reminds me of that quote ‘It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all’. To me, it means that while losing something can be painful, the love that you experience is worth it. Ironically, I think it is the love that makes the loss so painful in the first place.

Death is a natural part of life and while it can be challenging to go through the grieving process, I think it is important to remember that there can not be life without death. Understanding mortality can be viewed in many ways, however I think we can choose how to reconcile this knowledge. I choose to see this as an opportunity to cherish and value moments with loved ones and take advantage of opportunities that come up. How do you want to view this?

Cheers,

[abc01]

Dear VM-Bodie,

Mortality is the problem. I have never had anyone significant pass away in such a cruel state before. I can understand how they died, but not WHY? Why was life so cruel? And to such a sweet innocent boy. I feel I am being punished. Because I have to deal with the consequences.

I don’t regret loving him, it is just losing him after 3.5 years versus the 14 years I had with my last cat is just cruel. And if this is life, I don’t want it.
I understand people older then me will die before me. If I am lucky. And that younger people will die after me. If I am lucky.
I don’t enjoy being alive and I would not choose to be born again. I don’t have my own children for this reason. I won’t do this to them.

The love IS worth it. But the pain is real and intense. So I have to ask those questions.

Thank you for your reply,it is a hard post to answer too.
ABC01

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