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Hello @amberk77
I am soo incredibly sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful boy Harlem. How have you been coping since losing him? He sounded like the most amazing little friend and such a supportive companion to you. You were both very lucky to have found each other in life and it really does sound like he was half human with that level of compassion, awareness and understanding that he had. What a special time you shared together. Just Wow!
As also mentioned by @vm-mancha1, perhaps you could connect with some of the other community members that have also lost a pet recently such as @Lonerboy and @Lissy. It really helps to connect with others who have similar lived experience as us. I have lost two of my pet dogs over the last few years and it was the most devastating thing to go through, especially losing them suddenly. I really empathise with you as you experience this grieving time. I found that what helped me through the grief process was allowing myself the time and space to heal. I took a week off from my responsibilities and just cried and reminisced about our times together.
Would you like to share what is helping you through this time? One thing that seemed to help me was creating a photobook of my favourite memories of my dog which helped me to look at him and remember all the fun times we shared. Even the daggy times like when he saw a girl dog on our front lawn and his eyes nearly popped out of his head (He was a French bulldog and they tend to look like that sometimes!). It was painful to do this at the time. Half of me didn’t want to see his face, it was too painful. However, I thought that if I didn’t look at his beautiful face shortly after I lost him, it would make it harder to do later on when I thought I had healed just that little bit more. I was afraid that it would take me backwards in my healing if I was to find a photo of him later on. Like a complete shock. I didn’t want that. I used the photobook to talk about him and share all our memories together with anyone that would listen. It really helped. I also kept it in mind that just as time moves forward without him, I would always remember him with a smile in honour of the happiness and joy he gave to me, even if it was through tears. I hope that you find something that works for you to ease the pain. Take care of yourself at this time.