Chris’s story of spiralling pain and slowly rising again

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Chris’s story of spiralling pain and slowly rising again

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At 23, Chris’s father died after a terminal illness. A decade later, his newborn son Liam died unexpectedly. The grief that followed was unlike anything Chris had known — overwhelming, destructive, and life-altering.

For a time, he spiralled. Risky behaviours became routine. But when he realised how his actions could hurt others, something shifted. He turned toward connection. He formed a touch football team for bereaved dads — a space to share, grieve, and heal together.

Now, through his work with Red Nose, he supports other parents walking the same devastating path he’s walked.

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Chris and Beth with their son Liam

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Chris and his bereaved dads’ rugby team

This is Chris’s story, in his own words:
 

My grief journey has provided me with some stark lessons.

I was 23 when my dad died and 33 when my son, Liam died, so maturity wise, I had developed as an adult but in general, the grief around my son dying was so much worse. His death was somewhat unexpected and naturally, had his whole life ahead of him so incredibly hard to accept, where as my dad was 61 and had been diagnosed with an incurable disease which he had for 10 months and he had also achieved things in life, so my dad’s death was definitely easier to accept.     

During my grief there have been some obvious signs that I might be hitting rock bottom.

I started heavy drinking and driving incredibly recklessly. I just didn’t care about the consequences of my actions, running red lights, speeding etc. I didn’t care what happened to me, but what I wasn’t taking into account was what if I injure/kill someone else. 

I started to rethink my actions. I created a touch football team of other bereaved dads. Spending time with them and sharing stories really helped me process my own grief and knowing that I wasn’t alone.  In some regards this helped me deal with my emotions and creating a sense of community.

My relationship with grief has definitely evolved over time.

It’s not a physical change, like acutely physical. I still have hard moments often and around Liam’s birthday/anniversary, my birthday, Christmas, Father’s Day etc. and I still struggle daily but I have more control over those emotions now. I think about Liam’s and smile, instead of bawling my eyes out.

There are many ways that I carry Liam’s memory – tattoos, traditions, incorporating him into my routines etc. but the main one for me is by being of service to other bereaved parents and I’m so grateful that I can do that in my employment with Red Nose.

Grief hasn’t left Chris— it’s simply changed shape.

These days, he still has hard moments, especially around anniversaries, milestones, and Father’s Day. But there’s more control now. More peace.

Chris carries Liam’s memory through tattoos, routines, and quiet traditions — but most of all, by being of service. Helping other grieving parents isn’t just part of his healing — it’s part of Liam’s legacy.

Follow Chris’s journey of creating connection and support for other bereaved parents:

Linkedin: @chris-wood-7a1ab7368 

Instagram: chris_wood1106

Support resources

If you’re grieving, you don’t have to face it alone. 
The following resources can help you find support, connect with others who understand, and explore practical tools for living with grief. 

Additional support resources

Red Nose provides free, compassionate support for anyone affected by the death of a baby or child.

Whether you’re a parent, sibling, grandparent or friend, you don’t have to walk this path alone.

Crisis and emergency support

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