Two losses in 2 months

Hi @cmd83

Checking in – how have you been coping? I am glad to hear you are going to engage in a callback with Griefline. We are always interested in hearing about others’ stories, and to offer our best guidance and support. Before your call, I’d just like to remind you that there is no ‘proper way’ to grieve, and that you are able to experience strong emotions for as long as you need.
In my personal experience, the shock alone takes a long time to subside. I found it useful to speak about my experience with anyone willing to listen – they didn’t even need to say a word in reply. Shock can transform into guilt, which in my opinion is the toughest to deal with alone.
Again, I’m glad to hear you are booked for a callback from Griefline. We are here for you.

Take care,
Apples.

Hello @cmd83, I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and brother. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I just want to acknowledge how much strength and courage it has taken for you to share your personal experience here on the Griefline forum. I also want to let you know that grief is a personal and unique experience for every individual and your feelings are completely natural. As mentioned by @VM-pink1, it is completely normal for grief to feel heavy and confusing, especially when you are grieving multiple losses in a short span of time. It’s important to give yourself time to grieve and to be kind to yourself during this extremely difficult period. If you’re comfortable to do so, you could share your experience with people you trust. Perhaps you could create a photo album that includes beautiful memories of your time together, or you could try writing out your thoughts. These are both therapeutic practices that allow you to connect with your emotions and express your feelings. You can also continue to connect with others by using the Griefline forum. It’s so important during this difficult time to connect with others who are going through grief and loss. You’ve taken a courageous first step by reaching out to Griefline. We’re here to listen and support you.

Hi @cmd83

I am so sorry to read what you have been going through over the last 2 months. But I am also so very proud of you for coming here and reaching out for support. During such a tumultuous time it can be very frightening to tell others that we need help. But you have made the first step.

I would like to recommend a few articles to read that may be of help to you during this time of grieving.

https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-loss/ and https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-grief/ use simple language to explain what is happening and how to deal with the emotions you are presently experiencing. Both contain links to other resources that you might find useful.

If you feel like you would like to talk to someone, and not a screen, our helpline (1300 845 745) is open between the hours of 8 am and 8 pm AEST, every day. If you’d rather that we called you at a time of your choosing, we offer a call-back service at https://calendly.com/griefline_request_a_callback/30min.