What do people do with their loved one’s belongings after they are gone?

[VM-pi]

I guess I’m wondering what to do with things that can’t be donated and other family members don’t want? There are so many photos and journals that meant a lot to my mum but are kind of personal too. I’ve kept all the photos that I want to one side and other family members have done the same. With the journals, they were personal diaries where she would express her thoughts and feelings, rather than a memoir that tells her story as such. Any ideas? I guess it feels really strange to just throw them away but maybe that’s ok? It also makes me wonder what will happen with all my ‘stuff’ when I’m gone as I don’t have children (by choice).

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[VM-Yanw13]

Hi VM-pi,

It makes sense that deciding what to do with personal things like journals feels really hard. Many people struggle with this, and I reckon there’s no right or wrong way. Some choose to keep just a small part that feels most meaningful, others create a ritual or symbolic act when letting things go, and some decide to let time guide when they’re ready. Whatever you choose, it won’t erase your mum’s life or her voice, the love and meaning she brought to you live on in your memories.

[VM-angel33]

Hi VM-pi, I think it really depends on the person 🙂
If you are wanting to get rid of things and need support, maybe asking someone to assist with the sorting process.
Or holding onto things may be helpful and crucial to the grieving and honouring process.

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