Struggling to mourn

[downennumb]

im safe just sad, last week I witnessed my dad’s passing in hospital as his 10 month battle against a cancer relapse ended

still at a shock of words, each day has been so difficult since

the phrase “If you want to die, throw yourself into the sea, and you’ll find yourself fighting to survive. You don’t actually want to die; you want to kill something inside you.” has been pretty prevalent in my mind lately

i really wish i could eradicate every sense of sadness, stress and moodiness in me, my relationships would be so much better. even eating at home feels like it exerts more effort to before

i just want to chase happiness, not chasing an internship or a career

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[VM_Lavender]

Hi @downennumb,

As already mentioned unfortunately Griefline does not have a webchat/instant message service but I thought I would mention that Beyond Blue and Lifeline do. Even though they are not grief specific services I thought it may be helpful to let you know in case you would like to give either of those services a go.

Take care.

[VMPatch]

Hello @downennumb
Sorry but Griefline does not have webchat where you can communicate via a live chat by typing. With this forum, as you would have experienced, there is not an immediate response but we try to respond as soon as we can. .
Yes it is really hard for you dealing with your immense grief about the recent loss of your dad and at the same time wanting to pursue the things you need to do to be employable. It is only a very short time since you lost your and losing a parent has a big impact. I wonder if you may need to take a bit of time before you are able to start working on your employment goals again? Do you have any support services that are helping you with your employment goals?.
We hope you will continue to reach out to us via this forum or by calling our Helpline on 1300 845 745.

[downennumb]

@VMToby is there a typing/webchat equivalent to Griefline phone services? I’m more comfortable communicating in text.

As valid as I’m aware my feelings are unfortunately it lags me behind for employment opportunities, internships, volunteering, things i feel i need to be employable

[VMToby]

Dear Downennumb,

I feel so heartbroken for you as I read about you losing your special Dad.
You appear to be so courageous as you said you were with him when he passed and no doubt with him on his 10 month journey with cancer.
To lose a parent is one of the most difficult processes a child can go through,no matter how old we are and even it is expected.
There is nothing that can prepare you for this loss and the feelings afterwards.

Your feelings although scary for you at times are so normal.
Grief at this early stage is so overwhelming on so many levels and yet when we look at life it goes on.
We are in so much pain, and shock at the loss we are experiencing.
After a significant loss like the passing of your Dad life is never the same again and in time we learn to walk in life with grief by ourside.

When you feel up to it have a look at the grief line website as there is a lot of support out there for you at this time or when you are ready to talk.
The Griefline phone service is available 7 days a week from 9am-8pm Victorian time and the number is 1300 845 745.
This service is there to listen to where you are at and provide you with support and understanding that you need at this most difficult time.

Please take care.

[downennumb]

cancer is so cruel, i hope u stay strong too

[ritasmith]

I’m so sorry to hear this. I lost my mum on 2/2/26 to bowel cancer after nearly a three-year battle. Just a month before she passed, my husband was diagnosed with a brain tumour.
Please stay strong — cancer doesn’t play fair.

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