Pre-Memorial Worries

[downennumb]

i dont feel mentally prepared for my dads memorial service tomorrow, i do want to go to honour him but I know it’ll be very sad, especially with the cremation

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[VM_Lavender]

Hi @downennumb,

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. It sounds like he was a very special and dear person to you.
That makes a lot of sense that you would have been scared to ask who else would have been going. Now that the memorial has passed I am curious about how it went for you and if you had people there that you were or were not expecting and how that effected the day for you?

I thought I would link this article from our resources that you may find helpful through this time https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-grief/

I hope you have been able to be gentle with yourself as you have gone through the memorial today. If you ever feel like a chat our helpline is available 9am-8pm AEST 1300 845 745.

We are here to listen and support you through your grief, take care.

[downennumb]

@VMToby bit scared to ask who else will show tomorrow but in any case I will be grateful for whoever else does

[VMToby]

Dear downenumb,

Thank you for reaching out to the forum.

Your feelings about not being prepared for your Dad’s memorial are so normal.
I do not think anyone who loses a parent is mentally prepared or feels ready to attend the memorial or funeral.
Many who lose someone so important and significant as a parent are still in shock at losing their parent and for you your special Dad.

I so admire your courage as you said you would attend the memorial to honour him.You are so right it is important to honour those who love the most when we lose them.
Your sadness is so normal and one of the many feelings we have when we lose someone especially important and significant to us.
Will you have someone who is able to attend with you or be at the memorial who can support you? It is important to think about what would assist you at this time.

The griefline website has a lot of information on self care( so important at this time)and issues related to grief and loss.
Our phone line is open every day of the week from 9am to 8pm,Victorian time and the number is 1300 845 745 if you ever what to talk to someone about what you are going through at the moment.

Take Care of yourself at this most difficult time.

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