My friend from high school was murdered four weeks ago today

[aftersummer]

I don’t know how to think or feel. She was only 20. She should have had a long life ahead of her, full of love and light. But instead the it was stolen from her. Her memorial was on Saturday. They haven’t released the body for the funeral yet. It feels like nothing will be okay ever again

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[VMSunny88]

Hi @aftersummer

Wow, it sounds like you are going through a incredibly confusing, devastating experience after the loss of your friend. Losing a friend so suddenly, especially at such a young age, is an incredibly difficult experience to navigate. As @Shawrie mentioned, you are not alone. Griefline is here to walk alongside you through this journey. Often when something sudden happens like this, it can stir up a whole range of emotions beyond sadness—like anger, confusion, or even numbness. These responses are completely valid and part of the complex process of grief.

You’ve taken a brave and important step by reaching out here. I hope you find comfort and connection through these forums and the resources available. If you ever feel like talking, Griefline’s support line is open every day from 8am to 8pm. And if you’re under 25, Kids Helpline (1800 551 800) is also a wonderful resource for young adults aged 18–25.

• This reply was modified 2 weeks, 1 day ago by VMSunny88.

[tonzi]

Its ok to not feel ok. Life is astoundingly unfair, your grief and pain are your own, and no one can tell you how to feel or process it or how long you need. Be kind to yourself and how you feel. Writing down how you feel can really help. that’s why I joined this forum.
The days leading up to and after the funeral will be hard. My mother was also not released for a funeral for a couple weeks and I felt like I was stuck in stasis.

[VM-Shawrie]

Hello @aftersummer

I am so sad to read of the horrible loss of your friend. To lose a friend in such shocking and tragic circumstances must be utterly devastating, it makes sense to me that you feel nothing will be okay ever again.

I am so glad you have reached out, it takes courage to seek support and connection when we are feeling so much grief and all the emotions that come with it. We are here for you, and when or if you feel like you would like to talk, we welcome your call on 1300 845 745, 8am – 8pm 7 days a week. There are also some resources available on our website http://www.griefline.org.au that might help with understanding what you are experiencing. Specialised support is also available through 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 and information/resources specific to your state or territory available on their website http://www.1800respect.org.au

I wanted to say how sorry I am that your friend’s life was cut so tragically short, it must be bringing so many emotions mixed in with the grief and the loss. It is a lot to carry @aftersummer, but you are not alone, we are are here to support you through the coming days and months, and beyond, there is no time limit on grief it stays with us but as time goes on we can find ways to grow around it.

Please keep reaching out. Sending you much warmth and gentleness

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