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October 21, 2024 at 1:17 am #34422ellasloan45Participant
My cat 6 years old his birthday was 10 days before he died
I just can’t even comprehend what happened, he was killed by my sisters boyfriends dog
He was scared and in pain and I cannot stop thinking about it
I can’t shut my eyes without seeing it
It makes me feel sick and I feel so alone and scared
And the boyfriend lives with us so I have to see the dog every day it. I don’t know who to be mad at my sister her boyfriend the dog I don’t know but im mad, about two months ago the family dog agro died he was two he was the runt and had internal problems we couldn’t help and I am still grieving for him let alone having to accept this im literally just typing words im so emotionally and lost.
I have the brother of the dog that passed away and he ran away about a week after agro passed ( luckily he came back four days later) but im still traumatised from that. I know this post is all over the place but someone help please. -
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November 23, 2024 at 1:46 pm #35123VM_MichCParticipant
Hello @ellasloan45,
A few weeks have passed since you posted, and I wonder how you are coping.
It sounds like you are experiencing many strong feelings all at once, as well as daily reminders of the event and loss. I can also sense your desire to be seen and heard by the people living in your home. There is a lot to make sense of, and you expressed feeling lost.
Your courage to reach out for support can be seen as a great strength that you have when it comes to taking care of yourself. Griefline is available to listen and support 8am-8pm 7 days a week. Please continue to reach out for supportive resources as you need them throughout this time of care.
Griefline -1800 737 732.
Lifeline 24 hours 13 11 14Kind regards,
MichelleOctober 21, 2024 at 7:54 pm #34459abc01ParticipantDear ellasloan45,
I couldn’t find a way to edit my post.
I just wanted to say that you don’t have to do anything you aren’t comfortable with. So if you don’t feel safe reporting the offending dog,then don’t.
Please don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with,until you have a clear mind.
ABC01.October 21, 2024 at 7:14 pm #34458abc01ParticipantDear ellasloan45,
I hate to say this to you, in May my 3.5 yr old cat was killed by my neighbours dogs and unfortunately I completely understand and relate to what you are saying.
I am here to talk to. I am still struggling to what happened to my beloved boy,but wish I had someone to talk to right at the start that understood.
I am so incredibly sorry that this has happened to you and your cat. It is not fair and shouldn’t have happened.Period.
You are most likely in shock right now and need to take care of yourself first. Eating and sleeping are important,even when you feel like you don’t want too. Being able to express yourself is equally important.But are you safe? Is your other dog safe? Losing your furry family members are hard one at a time. You are in a situation that is more complex. No one deserves to be there. You don’t deserve to be there.
If this dog is in your house,are you safe and your other dog,from it? It isn’t an unreasonable question to ask. If this other dog has killed,they should be reported to the council. They may kill again unfortunately. I want your other dog to be safe. I also don’t want the offending dog to be given another chance to do it to you again or someone else.
I understand that it is your sisters boyfriend’s dog and that is a hard situation to be put in. But you do have a very valid reason to report it. It doesn’t necessarily mean the dog will be removed from your house,but it maybe declared a dangerous animal and then things will be needed to be put in place for that animal to stay at your house.I too had to live next to these dogs that took my cat’s life for around 8 weeks until they moved out(It was a rental). What that did to my mental health isn’t even funny. Everytime they barked I flashed back to seeing my cat dead. If you can’t do that,you may have to think of alternative options for you and your dog. I don’t know your living situation ,but I do know how horrible it is too be constantly reminded about how your loved one died.
I urge you to seek help from your GP, to connect you with some help if you can’t cope. I did the very next day after my boy passed. You don’t deserve to have to survive your way through this. There are people who can help with the trauma,but you have to act on that more quickly. The longer you wait,the more that builds up.
Some people don’t believe pets deaths are a actual reason to mourn,or that you should be done in about a week. Ignore these people. Your love for your cat,I can hear it in your post. You are allowed to grieve and mourn. It is a valid loss and a devastating one too. I won’t tell you what happened to me after,this is about you. You have every right to grieve and in what manner you want too.
You have every right to be angry. The dog is under the responsibility of the boyfriend. He shouldn’t have the dog if he can’t control it. You can be angry at anyone you want to be. Except yourself. Did you wake up that day and intentionally put your cat in harms way to die?The answer is no. This isn’t your fault. This is the dogs fault,which means it is the owner of the dogs fault and responsibility. By law.
First you need to deal with the shock your mind and body must be going through. Eating a piece of toast,just one. Getting out emotional adrenaline but exercising.Sleeping at the same time everyday. Self care by bathing and hygiene. Keeping yourself hydrated.You need to keep your body in a routine even if your mind can’t. And you need to feel safe. You have clearly been traumatised and overwhelmed by so many things happening in your life. And I can’t say how sorry I am to hear you have been going through so much.
Please call the grief hotline if needed, 7 days 8am-8pm. Beyond Blue has a 24/7 hotline if you need it. A forum too,but be aware they do censor posts and that can be upsetting if you are trying to communicate for help.
It is okay to be scared. It is okay to feel alone. But know that you are not. These things have just happened to you.Of course you are going to feel this way.
Please reply back if you want too or have any questions I maybe able to help with. Or just because you need a place for your feelings to be let out.
I know it doesn’t help much,but I will be thinking of you and sending you hope that you will be okay and find something that works for you.
Please know your cat loved you too. They know that you wouldn’t have done or allowed this on purpose.
ABC01October 21, 2024 at 10:11 am #34423VM-herewithyouParticipantDear, Ellasloan45, It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly difficult and overwhelming time right now. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved cat and for the trauma you’ve experienced. Losing a pet in such a sudden and tragic way, especially after already grieving for Agro, is heartbreaking. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling so much pain, anger, and confusion.
The way you described not being able to stop thinking about what happened, and how it’s affecting you physically and emotionally, shows how deeply this loss has impacted you. It makes sense that you’d feel a mix of emotions, including anger and sadness, and that you might not know exactly where to direct those feelings. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling, and it’s okay to not have all the answers right now.
Being in a situation where you’re constantly reminded of the event by seeing the dog and the people involved must feel unbearable at times. It’s important to acknowledge that your feelings of grief, anger, and even fear are valid, and that processing such a traumatic event takes time.
Please know that you don’t have to go through this alone. Reaching out like you did shows incredible strength, and there are people who care and want to support you. Have you had a chance to speak with your sister or her boyfriend about how this has affected you? It could be helpful to share your feelings with them when you’re ready, even though I understand that might be really hard right now.
If it feels too much to handle on your own, it might also be worth considering professional support, like a counsellor who can help you navigate these intense emotions. Losing two pets in such a short time, under traumatic circumstances, is a heavy burden, and you deserve care and space to grieve.
You’re not alone in this, even though it may feel that way right now. If there’s anything more you’d like to talk through or explore, we are here to listen. Take it one moment at a time—you’re doing the best you can in an incredibly tough situation.
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