Lost my wife 3 weeks ago

[tomcrowley]

I lost my darling wife to cancer 3 weeks ago. She was only 36. We have a 3 yo and a 5 yo. I have to look after them by myself now. Its Hard. It’s heartbreaking to see them sad. And I’m feeling so incredibly emotional. Sorting through all the administrative stuff last week was very triggering. I miss her so much. It’s hard to come to terms with.

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[VM_WinterSun]

Hi Tom,
I’ve just read your post, and I have to say that losing your beloved wife and the mother of your children so recently is an incredibly painful and overwhelming loss to experience. From your message, I can really feel the love you carry for your darling wife. 36 is such a young age, and to have your children to care for when navigating such immense grief is truely one of the hardest situations to be in. I hope you have some support around you during this time, and please know that we are here to listen and support you in the best way we can. You are doing the best you can in an incredibly difficult and unimaginable situation. Remember to look after yourself and give yourself the space to feel whatever it is you need, and if you feel like you need someone to talk over the coming days, weeks, or months, please reach out and give us a call on the helpline. It is a safe space where heartbreak can be shared anonymously, which many people find supportive. We are here for you. (1300 845 745 8am-8pm ADST)

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[VM-Serenity66]

Dear Tom,
My heart goes out to you and your children during this awful time. Your loss is so recent and so raw. Losing a beloved wife at any age, and a Mum at such a young age, is a devastating blow for a young family. I can only imagine how overwhelmed you must feel by grief and the responsibilities of caring for your children. Once upon a time I became a solo Dad to two four year olds, though not through bereavement. It is one thing to suffer, and another thing entirely to watch your children suffer. It is also such a cruel coincidence that all the crucial tasks arrive when you have the least available energy and inclination to do them. All the things you are feeling are valid and real. It’s okay to feel heartbroken while you make dinner; cry while you run the bathwater; fall asleep from exhaustion while reading a bedtime story. Be gentle with yourself, allow yourself the things you need to keep going, and please don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Your children need you, and vice-versa, and you need your support community. Cobble it together from whatever and whoever you can. As one Dad to another, I wish you well and hope no helping hand is wasted while you walk this journey of grief and parenthood.
I hope we can support and comfort you here, or on the Griefline Helpline (1300 845 745 8am-8pm ADST) when you need it. You don’t have to do this alone.

Resources here on the Griefline website may be helpful to you, and you may also wish to look into contacting First Light Widowed Support at https://www.firstlight.org.au/

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