Loss of my mum

[annmarie]

Hi I’m relatively new to this. I lost my mum 7 weeks ago, she was in a nursing home and suffered from vascular dementia. Even though she was sick her death wasn’t excpected so suddenly. I’m struggling. I also lost my dad in September last year and my two elderly cats (my children) just before that. I have no siblings and am alone. I miss my mum incredibly and am struggling with my anxiety and depression. The one cat I have left which is mums is not well at the moment also so I’m panicking as well.

The grief of all my losses is unimaginable and I feel like no one understands but the loss of my mum has totally broken me. I don’t know how to move forward. Any advice would be great. Thank you.

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[VM-Lottie24]

So sorry to hear you have lost your Mum, Annmarie. You’re dealing with so much loss and sadness – it’s complelety understandable that you feel broken and not able to see a way forward. Perhaps now isn’t the time to be making any big plans, but focus on small actions which support your own sense of safety and wellbeing. Having a daily routine which incorporates self-care and something that connects you to a feeling of peace, can bring a sense of stablity when everything feels a bit out of your control. This can be as simple as a walk in the park or having a warm bath in the evening to help you wind down and calm your thoughts. If you have a sympatheic GP, they may be a good resource for accessing support for you locally – and may be able to link you up with counselling.
You’re doing so well and are brave to reach out. Perhaps reading some of the resources on the Griefline website may help you decide what is right for you at this time. https://griefline.org.au/resources/

[VM-bluesky]

I’m so sorry to hear of your losses Annmarie. At major life transition times like this, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed and lost. Its very wise that you have reached out for support via this forum, and I urge you to also ring Griefline on 1300 845 745 between 8am and 8pm EST to chat with one of our volunteers who can help support you on your grief journey and refer you to other supports. Its important that you don’t go through this alone.

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