Loss of grandparent

[vixeni]

Today I heard the news of my grandads passing, although it was expected it definitely hurts not being able to be there physically but being able to video call him one last time before his passing is an amazing thing. I am concerned about my work because I just came back from a holiday and I’ve taken alot of leave and I would like to go to his funeral which I would need to travel overseas to do and I work 12hrs shiftwork so Im not sure what I am entitled to. Having both my dad and my sister heading overseas but just missing his passing really makes me feel bad and the potential arguments with family that they will have with each other is making me stressed out

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[VM-bluesky]

Hi vixeni,
I’m sure you will treasure that video call, and no doubt reflect fondly on your relationship with him and what you learnt from him – over time, this will help you form a continuing bond. Loss of a key family member can bring up a lot of feelings and even changes in dynamics within a family. So many potential things COULD happen in the future, but most will not. When you know what you are dealing with, you will address it like you have done with other situations all your life. So try to focus on the present moment and deal with what is the task at hand right now – it sounds like you may need to discuss the situation with your boss so you can make a better informed decision. In the end, many things and other peoples’ responses are outside of your control – you can only focus on what is within your control. Please also consider reaching out to one of the Griefline volunteers on 1300 845 745 to chat about it.

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