Loosing 2 beautiful souls you’d never expect happening

[phillsmith20]

The death of my grandfather a few years back has always been in the back of my mind every single day and I’m still not over that passing. The death of a step brother 2 weeks ago has just crushed me. I can’t function, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep and now I’m wondering what’s going to end up happening to me. All these silent mind games that my few friends and partner don’t understand and I would never expect them too or ask them to. I don’t think that I will ever be the same again. So sad and so tragic is just a massive understatement. Obviously turning to alcohol is no good for anyone but what can you do? I can’t work because obviously the way I feel. I don’t know I’m just lost for words and I’m surprised I’ve even wrote this much. I know how all you people who are big over thinkers and can’t deal properly are feeling. Remember thoe we aren’t alone

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[bean]

Hi there,
I also can’t sleep or eat at the moment. Any advice on how to get through the first few days?

[VMPatch]

Hello @philsmith20
It sounds like you are experiencing very strong emotions and physical reactions to the loss you have experienced. It is very normal to have strong reactions when we lose someone we care about. Reaching out for support as you have done in this forum is a positive step for you to take and I encourage you to also consider calling our Griefline ( open 8am to 8pm Mon to Fri) on 1300 845 745 as it can be helpful to talk with one of our trained volunteers. You can also “book a call” on our webiste – see the link below and the button is on the right side at the top of the page to book a call. Once you book a call, a volunteer will call you back at the time/day you select.

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The website also has lots of good information under the “Grief and Loss Resources” tab. One fact sheet that you might like to read is “Coping with grief” – the link is below

Fact sheets

If you continue to not be able to sleep or eat I encourage you to talk with your Dr.
As you have said in your post you are not alone, so I encourage you to reach out for the support you need during this very difficult time.

[vmpercy]

I’m really sorry to hear about the immense pain you’re feeling, phillsmith20. The passing of your grandfather and now the loss of your stepbrother sounds incredibly heavy. Your courage in sharing this here, especially when words feel so limited, is something I admire. It’s clear that you’re carrying a lot, but the resilience you’ve shown by reaching out and even recognising that we aren’t alone in our struggles speaks about your inner strength.

It’s understandable that those around you might not fully understand the depth of your grief, but always remember that this community is here specifically for moments like this—to listen, to support, and to empathise. It’s okay to lean on this space whenever you need. You’re not alone, and we’re here for you.

You’re also free to call our helpline if you’d like to talk to someone over the phone about what you’re feeling. I’ve also attached a link from our resource hub you might find useful

Free telephone support

Coping with Loss

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