Just having a look at adoption websites.

[abc01]

Hi all,
Today I thought I should just have a look at the cats and kittens in my area up for adoption on websites.
I never truly did this with a purpose to actually apply. But apart of me wanted to look.
I saw some truly wonderful cats in need of a home and love and attention. I even saw some that would meet my criteria for my home and my dogs. I even eerily saw some that were ringers/almost identical to my beloved cat.
But when I pictured them on the bed beside me,all I could see were strangers.
Now I know that I am truly not ready. People keep telling me a new friend might help me heal.The depression,the trauma and the grief.
I haven’t processed my grief fully and come to terms understanding it. And I understand now,that if I did adopt one of these wonderful feline friends,it wouldn’t be fair on them.
I just thought I could share that with others. If you or if I am not ready,then we should stay unchanged.
I don’t feel guilty for looking at those websites, I just know there is only one face I am truly looking for.
And knowing my limits on my grief has made me a little stronger today.
Thank you for listening.
ABC01

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[VM-sweetpea]

Hi @ABC01,
Thank you for sharing this with us. It is clear that you hold great insight into your feelings and are making sure to set your own rules with what you need on your healing journey.
Taking your time and being kind to yourself is so important always, but especially in bereavement.
Please know we are here for you on this forum and that Greifline is available 8am-8pm everyday at tel:1300845745.
In a previous post you have expressed that you journal to help with your feelings. I wonder if you have thought about adding some mindfulness techniques. I’ve attached a good article that you might find helpful.

Mindfulness for Grief

[vmrose33]

Hi abc01

Thanks for sharing this experience with us. I can hear that this was a big step for you and you put a lot of thought into considering the possibilities but know that it is not right for you at this time. I am glad that you were able to gently explore and ultimately respect your own limits and gain some strength from it.

Take care,

vmrose33

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