How to deal with loss of my dad

[hsoabkoe]

We’re ten months out now from when we lost Dad. I know people say grief is not linear and there’ll be waves as it comes and goes but how come it still hurts so much. How do people move on from the pain and sadness and deal with it? I try to find distraction techniques and try to look at the bright side of things but some days it still hurts as much as the day it happened.

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[nikulasosmolski]

Hey my friend,

I don’t have much suggestions; my adopted father whom was also my best friend, died 3 months ago by tragic accident in my arms.

I’m just posting to say you’re certainly not alone. I feel very unsettled, weird, out of sorts, very lethargic, and also like my world has turned upside down.

I am a recovering alcoholic, and had a year of sobriety up. But during his death I have been going through many alcohol and small drug lapses.

Right now I have just finally accepted some things:

1. My father would have been proud of me for the way I handled his death, funeral, house tidy etc…

2. For the next however long time, I have accepted this is just the way things are for now. I have embraced the suckiness of the situation and will just bear it with hope for a while. Life doesn’t end for me here.

3. I may never get over him. But that’s ok, time passed will allow me to integrate things.

4. Whenever it sunshines in my country, it is nighttime in another. Meaning, the future has so much good on hand.

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