How to cope with grief

[dp01]

Hello:

I have lost several close friends within a very short space of time, recently, and I am very much overcome with a great deal of grief and loss. I am trying to cope with the emotions and feelings that are associated with all this sadness, but finding it very overwhelming. I am not eating as well as I should, or sleeping well, or exercising as much as I should either. I try to keep as busy as I can, but that can be very hard, especially when times can also feel very lonely and isolating.

I am in need of support, most definitely not religious in any way, from anyone who has felt similar to how I feel now, and any suggestions on how to cope.

Thank you.

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[VM-Buffalo3]

Hello dp01,

I’m so very sorry to hear of the loss of several close friends in such a short time. That’s a huge amount of grief to carry, and it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed right now.

It takes courage to share how you’re feeling, and I’m glad you’ve reached out here. Grief can affect so many parts of our lives like sleep, appetite, motivation. It can feel exhausting, especially when loneliness and isolation are also part of what you’re facing.

You mentioned wanting to hear from others who’ve felt similarly. While everyone’s grief journey is unique, many people in our community can relate to how disorienting and all-consuming grief can feel. Sometimes it helps to know you’re not alone in those struggles, even small steps like posting here can be part of looking after yourself.

I wonder if it might be helpful to focus on very gentle, small acts of self-care for now. Recognise any pressure that may be there to “get back to normal” routines like eating well or exercising. Even things like sitting outside for a few minutes, writing down your feelings, or listening to music you find soothing can be gentle ways to care for yourself when the bigger tasks feel too much.

Please know there’s no right or wrong way to grieve, and it’s okay to move at your own pace.

If it ever feels too heavy, remember that Griefline is here for you on 1300 845 745, 8am-8pm every day. Sometimes speaking out loud to someone who understands can bring a small sense of relief or clarity.

Take things moment by moment. We’re here to listen if you feel up to calling.

[vmShila]

Hello dp01,

losing one person is so difficult, to lose several close friends within a short period time must be so overwhelming and understandably devastating. I hear how grief stricken you are and searching for ways to cope with your losses. I am so glad you have posted, it takes courage to reach out when we are in the midst of our grief. I want to reassure you that you are not alone, and encourage you to continue posting and connecting.

I would also encourage you to call the helpline 1300 845 745 available 8am-8pm 7 days a week, sometimes it really helps to talk about big emotions, grief, and loss with someone in the moment. This service is available whenever you feel you need a warm, non-judgmental listening ear for support.

The Griefline website also has some wonderful resources that offer strategies and tips for navigating grief, here is a link to one that may be useful.

When a loved one dies: a guide to coping with grief and loss

Everyone has their own grief journey, no one person will experience grief the same way, but it is so important to apply some self care. As you have noted, this has been challenging with eating, sleeping and exercising. Go gently, take one day at a time. Here is some information that I hope will help with finding ways to support yourself through this terribly difficult period.

A gentle guide to self-care after loss: The E.A.S.T. approach

Sending warmest wishes dp01,

We are here for you xo

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