hi folks james here, this is about my experience and ‘dying to know day’

[jjonline81]

hey everyone this is James here from Sydney. Thanks for sharing your stories alright.. It has been pretty touching and also confronting to hear what other people are going through on this journey. so it’s a lot to open up about.

So i dunno how to put it into words really but I lost my uncle suddenly when I was in primary school yr4 class, and it was a huge shock for me. its a long time ago now, but its one of those things most of my family doesnt really talk about now including at christmas, family reunions.

There’s a ‘dying to know day’ film screening – https://kinema.com/events/the-last-ecstatic-days-dying-to-know-day-premiere-hosted-by-goodfilm-dvrpc8

for the 8 august which looks good. A online documentary is running about end-of-life care. It’s gonna be online in australia with the director and experts answering the people watching.. it is the story which gets me the most as Im the same age as the guy Ethan in this movie

It talks a lot about Ethan whose 36 going through his experience with chemo too young then making all his choices about how he wants his life to be celebrated which is pretty right on.l JJ

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[VM-pink1]

Hi James,

To lose someone we love suddenly can be a huge shock, understandably so.
It can be common in grief to avoid it at all costs, it is painful and so it can be the way that some of us just can’t find the words for it. Avoidance can be a needed strategy at times but albeit, mostly only a temporary relief. Reaching out as you have and sharing can be such an important part of healing grief, thank you for doing so and for sharing a valuable resource.
Have you also been able to find time to take breaks from grief? What do you like to do (hobbies etc)?

Sending you infinite compassion…

[jjonline81]

thanks for the reply vm hedgehog it means a lot to me. Yes it was a difficult period.

I appreciate the advice and the tip hey. keep up the great forum here.

thanks- jj

[vm_hedgehogg]

Hi James,

I am sorry to hear about your uncle. The loss due to the death of a relative would have been challenging for a young person to understand, particularly if it was unexpected. From your description, the experience is likely even more challenging because nobody seemed to be available for you to make sense of and understand the grief of losing your uncle when you needed it the most. Given how big it may feel like, it would have been difficult to put the experience into words. Maybe because words can’t do it justice.

There are also many helpful resources on the Griefline website that may be a good starting point to explore your experience with your bereavement, such as: https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-loss/

Alternatively, please call our helpline on 1300 845 745 if and when you are ready. We are available from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. (AEST), 7 days per week.

Thank you for sharing your experience and the film. Take care.

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